PATRICK STORIES

THE CONCEPT OF SPENDING TIME ALONE

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Hi peeps,buddies and my fellow bloggers.

There have just been a lot of exciting things going on lately in my life, which I will probably share with you guys. Have you ever had one of those days to spend time alone and think about the things in life?

Today, I wanted to discuss something that has been on my heart and there is a lot of value in spending time with other people but been alone is still optimistic.

My friends may or may not agree, but I would personally consider myself to be introvert because I want to be alone. Funny decisions.

But as I thought about being alone, I began to notice a sense of Fear and anxiety growing inside of me. Am no longer a kid, I’ve grown to be afraid of being alone.

Someone can be alone in various ways-

Like sitting alone inside the room.

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Standing close to the mirror without looking like you  have something to do.

Thinking and meditating about something meaningful(yoga).

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Going out to the river bank to throw stones.

Sitting under the tree at midnight thinking.

Whatever it is, Loneliness, especially among our generation, is starting to look like a really bad thing. A thing that must be avoided at all times, or else everybody will think of you as some sort of social misfit.

Consider the Transcendentalists, nemophilist, Romantics, Jesuits, and Monks!  These guys would go on lonely retreats to mountains, lakes, forests, deserts, and temples just to meditate, to get away from the hustle of everyday life.

Being alone isn’t something so bad, there are some true pleasures of being alone.
You start realizing the beauty in everything, in nature, in your space, in other people, and (perhaps most importantly) in yourself.

Enjoy spending some time resting and relaxing, even if it happens to only be for a couple minutes or an hour.

Spending time alone is about “be at peace with yourself and having Love for yourself a bit”

As you spend time alone always have two things in mind 

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“”””””’BE HAPPY SPENDING TIME ALONE”””””

 

Whats your own idea about spending time alone?

 

Please let me know all your reactions and insights in the comment box below!

 

Written by:

Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka

Writer/Blogger/Educator/Tutor

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156 comments

  2. I spend most of my time alone but realize I am never truly alone as I believe God energy is in all existence – trees, flowers, birds, insects, my dogs — all forms of life. When I spend time “alone” it’s as you aptly describe. You can truly know yourself or the God of your understanding with worldly distractions and noises whispering in your ears and in your eyes all the time. Great post!

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i apprecaite very much mr saymber.
      Am happy you included God here.

      For someone to be alone he or she has to connect with the environment in terms of thinking and attitude at that moment. For me i agree with you first statement as i quote”””””I spend most of my time alone but realize I am never truly alone as I believe God energy is in all existence – trees, flowers, birds, insects, my dogs — all forms of life.””””””

      Finally,the greatest time to be alone is when you spent it with God.
      Again, thanks Mr saymber for you wonderful reply.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  4. (sorry! That was just mistakenly sent!)
    But being alone really feels amazing. We get to be with ourselves 😊 we get to know about our value.. and have a sense of our own existence ✨
    Thanks for so beautiful post!

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    • You do not have to say sorry to your friend. Apology accepted Miss honey8

      Wow…you used the right word “amazing” for that post as i quote “”””But being alone really feels amazing.””””””

      Very much amazing like having great time for youself and being happy from distraction from people and surrounding.

      Lastly, you said it all by declaring you final say on this as i quote from you reply “””We get to be with ourselves 😊 we get to know about our value.. and have a sense of our own existence ✨”””

      Knowing our value and that sense of existence. That was all the “”alone”” post was about. Know your value in life and society and also a sense of existence in this world.

      Thank you very much for this inspirational comment you gave me. Am happy seeing your comment here.

      You been a good friend since i met you here on this platform.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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    • Alone or lonely?
      Alone is an adjective and an adverb meaning that no other person is with you.

      Loneliness is a lack, a feeling that something is missing, a pain, a depression, a need, an incompleteness, an absence.

      Aloneness is presence, fullness, aliveness, joy of being, overflowing love. You are complete. Nobody is needed, you are enough.

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    • I understand what you mean now. Ok…as i give clear difference between two of them now

      Loneliness is a lack, a feeling that something is missing, a pain, a depression, a need, an incompleteness, an absence.
      Lonliness-affected with, characterized by, or causing a depressing feeling of being lonely.
      Loneliness-remote from places of human habitation; desolate;

      While Aloneness is presence, fullness, aliveness, joy of being, overflowing love. You are complete. Nobody is needed, you are enough.
      Dictionary meaning: separate, apart, or isolated from others:

      From your last statement i get what you feel as i quote from it””””” here is aloneness, as I am right now. Then again, I am reading great blog pieces, so I am not lonely!”””””””

      Meaning aloneness is part of you now as you read my blog post!!!!! Lol

      Lastly i undestand what you mean. Happy sunday brother.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  7. Wonder why anyone equates being alone with being a something bad. I think perhaps it is because they don’t feel comfortanle in their own skin and are busy trying to create some acceptable “version” of themselves instead of finding out who they really are and learning to embracee that. Even Scripture says that to hear God we must be still and quiet our minds. So do many eastern philosophies encourage one to clear their mind completely on a regular basis to obtain maximum health and some level of enllightenment. I have been described as a social butterfly and as a gregarious individual, but that is only a part of who I am. I am both an introvert and an extrovert, and I love both aspects of those states of being. And I need and cherish my alone time. Perhaps because at 75 I’ve divorced myself completely from the “corporate they” who seem to think they have the right the set the rules and perameters for the lives of others. So enjoy your alone time and never ever feel guilty about it or the need to justify it to anyone else. 🙂 ❤

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i apprecaite that very much.

      I will thank you for making such statement clear here as i quote “””Wonder why anyone equates being alone with being a something bad.”””””

      I agree with your statement with passion. Thanks !!!! you prove to me here on my post.

      Here it is clear from “””” Even Scripture says that to hear God we must be still and quiet our minds.””””””””

      I guess you read the bible alot. I love that. That is cool.

      Yeah.its fun being in both state of being.
      Am also an introvert and extrovert.
      I have weigh both state of being i found it been ok with that.

      I totally agree with that statement as i quote “”””I am both an introvert and an extrovert, and I love both aspects of those states of being.””””

      This is one of the thing i do not like,someone stating or giving you rules about your own life. I live my own life with the direction which i choose.

      I guess “”divorced” you mean is like separate your self from those who set rules for people life.

      For me i believe in that little write up you did now as i quote from your statement”””Perhaps because at 75 I’ve divorced myself completely from the “corporate they” who seem to think they have the right the set the rules and perameters for the lives of others.”””””

      Lastly it shows how motherly you are by giving this last statement “””””So enjoy your alone time and never ever feel guilty about it or the need to justify it to anyone else. 🙂 ❤”””””

      Am happy you made my day.

      Happy sunday Mrs nataliescarberry
      ❤❤❤❤

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  8. I don’t know why some people find being alone as something bad…I personally think spending time alone is very beneficial. It helps me reboot my mind thus I’m able to think deeply and more clearly and eventually
    reconnect with myself again. 🙂

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  9. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i apprecaite very much.

    I totally agree with you comment now.
    Peoples confuse alone with lonely.

    They are quite different terms.

    My post here is about alone…..

    This is what i like in your statement”””””I personally think spending time alone is very beneficial. It helps me reboot my mind thus I’m able to think deeply and more clearly and eventually
    reconnect with myself again.”””””

    yeah i love that from you. Am a fan of that . When am alone i think straight and am not distracted from anything. I get more time to think and get inspired more on how to write more post on my blog.

    So finding alone concept is what i believe in so much.

    Thanks for that comment again.

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace and Love

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  10. Wonderful post. I believe there is a difference between consciously taking the time to be alone and feeling lonely. After all, some people could be in a crowd of people and still feel lonely. Those that chose to have moments of “me time” are taking moments to reflect, introspect, refreshing, or re-centering themselves. For (introverted) me, my “me time” moments is vital for me to gain an understanding of my universe and to interact with those around me.

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Yeah. Am happy you said that at the comment box,i so much like that statement””” I believe there is a difference between consciously taking the time to be alone and feeling lonely.””””

      I thank you for that ok.

      Secondly, that “me time” sound like alone to me. I guess i understand to some extent like what you said as i quote””””Those that chose to have moments of “me time” are taking moments to reflect, introspect, refreshing, or re-centering themselves.””””

      At my “”me time” as you said, i used it to reflect, go in to critical thinking, making life calculations,think about the future,plan well for the next day etc. That is actually my “me time” as i quote……LOL …kind of funny Mr Rey.

      Lastly, I take two state of being behaviour(introvert and extrovert), so i guess i agree with that last one”””” For (introverted) me, my “me time” moments is vital for me to gain an understanding of my universe and to interact with those around me.”””””

      Yeah again, “””me time”” or likewise “” Alone time”” , i don’t joke with them at all.
      I feel more comfortable with my Alone time.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  11. Thank you, Patrick, for replyiing to my comment. Yes I did mean separated when I used the term divorced. Yes, I do try to read the Bible as much as I can as I am a follower of Jesus and so want to live my life as much like His as I can which means that I definitely don’t let others tell me who and what I should be any longer. And after rearing one child of our own and teaching for 31 years, motherly advice comee easy for me, Now for a question for you, you speak English very well but I can tell that it is not your native language, So might I ask where you are from? If you’d rather not answer I won;t be offended, Have a wonderful week kind sir! 🙂 ❤

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  12. No I’m not divorced. I’m going on 55 years of marriage. That was just an expression I used in my original comment to indicate that I had set myself free forever from the influence of what others think. Sorry for the misunderstanding. 🙂

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  13. Good post. For me, spending time alone is an everyday thing, despite the fact that I am a family man. I spend some time alone, sometimes to finish pending work, or sometimes to clear off my mind. Cheers!

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      I found time doing what you said in your statement as i quote””””I spend some time alone, sometimes to finish pending work, or sometimes to clear off my mind”””

      I totally agree with that. Thanks for the comment.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  14. Being alone is a state of mind, one can be alone in a crowd.. 🙂 when alone I can concentrate on my inner self without outside influence, learning about myself and better able to discover and understand the universe…

    “When you are truly inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project… your mind transcends its limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world! Then those dormant forces, faculties and talents inside you become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be.” Patanjali “

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post, I appreciate that very much.

      Am a fan of steady concentration. when am alone i learn a new kind of being and a new kind of personality. I totally agree with those statement”””when alone I can concentrate on my inner self without outside influence, learning about myself and better able to discover and understand the universe…”””””

      secondly, am in love with this second statement “”””When you are truly inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project… your mind transcends its limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world!””””

      do you know why because during that period of been alone, inspiration comes over as i quote from you statement above “””When you are truly inspired by some great purpose, some extraordinary project… your mind transcends its limitations, your consciousness expands in every direction, and you find yourself in a new, great and wonderful world!”””””

      lastly, those things you wished for are they brought out one after the order as you stand or sit been alone as i qoute from you”””those dormant forces, faculties and talents inside you become alive, and you discover yourself to be a greater person by far than you ever dreamed yourself to be””””

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  18. I absolutely love having time alone. I wouldn’t want it all the time, but I have no problem occupying myself for a day. I wish we could celebrate this more. There is a cult of sociability, and I wonder if we would be more content if we were comfortable with our own company. A lovely post.

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    • Thanks for replying back to me.

      Thanks again for reading this my comment to the end. I guess you find it interesting.
      I really enjoyed such reply as I type to you now.

      love to ask you one simple question. what do you do when you are alone?

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  20. I have a love hate relationship with alone time. As I am an individual who suffers heavily with anxiety I sometimes find it is the times I am alone that I am most relaxed and as I meditate in silence it is the most calm I feel for a whole day. However at my most anxious I also have huge issues with being alone as I feel as though I cannot cope. I suppose being alone for me can be a state I am at my most scared and my most contempt. The balance being a necessary construct in making my life functional.
    Ella xo

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      This is a normal thing some people we also hate and love so I totally agree with that statement “””I have a love hate relationship with alone time.”””

      My mind tells me I wrote this post for you,i am still happy I agree with that also and again this is your love relationship with alone time as I quote from your statement “””As I am an individual who suffers heavily with anxiety I sometimes find it is the times I am alone that I am most relaxed and as I meditate in silence it is the most calm I feel for a whole day.”””””””

      Secondly, this is where you feel bored up about alone time.This is your hate relationship with alone time as I quote from you “”””However at my most anxious I also have huge issues with being alone as I feel as though I cannot cope.””””””

      Finally, you were able to balance it with such comment about that hate and love relationship with alone time as I quote from your comment””””””The balance being a necessary construct in making my life functional””””””

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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    • Thanks for replying  back to me.

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      On you reply message, I believe that statement as i quote from you “”””””Loneliness is a difficult issue. It often comes after a loss which makes it even more difficult.””””

      Loneliness is different from aloneness.

      I really enjoyed such reply and comment

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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    • Thanks for replying  back to me.

      Thanks again for reading this my comment to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      You always welcome dear.

      What do you do when you are alone.

      I really enjoyed such reply as I type to you now.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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      • You’re welcome! When I’m alone, which isn’t often, I enjoy writing or going for walks. Probably anything to clear my mind so that peaceful and positive thoughts can replace any negative ones lingering around. Thanks for asking. – Heidi

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        • Thanks for replying  back to me.

          Is show you concern for me.
          I really love this quote from you “””
          When I’m alone, which isn’t often, I enjoy writing or going for walks.””””””

          Am a big fan of walking around in forest, meditating.

          Lastly, I so much believe in this statement. I found it more on life application to me as I quote from you””
          Probably anything to clear my mind so that peaceful and positive thoughts can replace any negative ones lingering around.””””

          This is one of the reason Iove being Alone.

          I really enjoyed such reply as I type to you now.

          #PATRICKSTORIES
          Peace and Love

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    • Thanks for replying back to me.
      I guess you find it interesting.

      On you reply message “Nice post 🙂 I wrote a blog about this too 🙂 It’s important to enjoy your own company, to be comfortable with yourself, to become your own best friend 🙂””””
      I really enjoyed such reply as I type to you now.

      since you wrote something about being alone. can i ask you a simple question
      what do you do when you are alone?

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      I will try and check on your blog.

      That is cool of you did such write up on alone.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  25. Hi Patrick. Thank you for following me and leaving those nice comments on my blog posts. I’m glad I followed your blog because there’s so much positivity here! Like this post that talks about enjoying your loneliness. I guess being lonely and being a loner are two different things. In the former, you crave company, while in the latter you don’t. For someone to enjoy loneliness they would have to first stop craving company. Unfortunately, in our digital era there are several who are not loners, but forced into it because they have no company, and by that I mean real company. That’s my take on loneliness – that you can enjoy it as long as you don’t have real loneliness in your life.

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  27. I like ur idea of sitting under the tree very peaceful. Being alone neccessarily doesnt mean u r lonely and its very important to know the difference between the two. Very nice to see another introvert here.🙃

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Actually am both of them, introvert and extrovert. But my introvert supersede the extrovert behaviour.

      I want to ask you a simple question:
      What do you do when you are alone?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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      • Thats an ambivert. I am one too. I dont think a person has time to feel lonely. Generally when I am alone i sing, dance, read, write, do some craft work, meditate or simply relax and observe nature. 😇😇😇

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        • Am expecting another reply like this. You really make my day reading and viewing this one.
          I agree with you “””Thats an ambivert”””

          I enjoyed this your reply when you alone and I love it so much “”when I am alone i sing, dance, read, write, do some craft work, meditate or simply relax and observe nature. 😇😇😇””””

          Thanks. Again.

          #PATRICKSTORIES
          Peace and Love

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  28. Being alone, give me a space to think for me..for my betterment..Honestly I get too little time, being alone and whenever I get it..I spend it on my hobbies.. One of which is writing something..

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      That is really cool to do.

      I did a little write on things that inspire me. Solitude is one of them which means a noiseless enivironment.

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  32. Hey Patrik..Firstly thank you so much for following me…Loved this blog of yours….I do love to spend time with myself as it not only give my soul peace but also let me realize things which i can’t realize otherwise and as being a very emotional person I need to keep myself reminding that its not good to be so emotional for everything so thatz y its so important for me to have SOME ALONE time….

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      As for me, am in total agreement with such comment as I quote “”” I do love to spend time with myself as it not only give my soul peace but also let me realize things which i can’t realize””””

      When am alone i do realize difficult things are made easy especially in terms of calculations as a lecturer. More thinking
      and brain cracking are done during this staying alone from my view.

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      When I was growing up. I was always an indoor kid. I found it more interesting back then because I was clean, brilliant and optimistic. This trait followed me till now because I was alone kid who do things in a special or excluded way.

      As I grow up I was able to know the difference between alone and lonely.
      So I totally agree with you.ok. So I guess am in agreement with such statement “” I think it is important to recognise the huge difference between being alone and being lonely.””

      I love this short meaning you gave
      Being alone is cool, very often.
      Being lonely hurts, always.

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  35. As a fellow introvert, I couldn’t agree more. I love spending time alone. I love my space. I love my little big world. But sometimes, almost all the time, after spending too much time alone, I crave some company and that’s when I go looking for my friends .

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Am happy you were able to analyse your own view about spending time alone as I quote from your comment “”” I love spending time alone. I love my space. I love my little big world.

      The second part was about the bad aspect about you spending time alone as I quote “”” But sometimes, almost all the time, after spending too much time alone, I crave some company and that;s when I go looking for my friends.””””

      Too much of everything is bad. Like me I don’t do it that much. I do it when I have to analyze my life a little and do some personal research on something.

      Now a simple question for you.
      When you spend time alone what is your benefits?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  38. I value alone time for reading and enjoying a wide variety of arts and crafts projects. Father lives with me. He is 94. I am not looking forward to the time of his passing. I have a son and some grandchildren, no friends, no social network. That’s going to be a very different kind of alone an very challenging I think.

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    • Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      This is what i know and I love to do when am alone as i quote from your comment “”” I value alone time for reading and enjoying a wide variety of arts and crafts projects.”””

      Whether old or not.. Staying alone have no age or grades.

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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  41. Being alone calms me it brings good thought and idea to me I wish I could write dem down but am sacred DAT sumone will read dem.so I really like my alone time some people might think am weird but it is good to spend time alone reading and enjoying nature as it is.nice concept I really enjoyed it

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