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Sometimes I Ponder on these things base on my personal views about life and reality;

Many people lose themselves in search of what is missing in their lives.

Many lose their moral limb while searching for the “missing rib”!

Some lose their health while searching for material wealth.

Some have lost their integrity while looking for wealth.

Don’t lose your mind because the job is lost.

Don’t lose your children while searching for their school fees.

Don’t lose your ministry while searching for tithes and offerings.

Don’t lose your mantle while searching for a title.

When those things are eventually discovered or acquired, greater things (yourself, relationship, character, values & virtues) would have probably dissolved!

When you eventually hammer that deal, will your nail still be strong enough to hold the woods of your integrity in a proper frame?

By the time you get popular, will you not be strange to dignity?

By the time you get that visa or fame, will your passport to purity not have been torn?

When you eventually make the money, will your marriage/friendship/relationships still have meaning?

 

In the process of losing yourself remember this two powerful things

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Here is a simple question for my viewers, readers and my fellow bloggers.

What are the things you lose during your struggle and how did you overcome it?

Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

Written by:

Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka

Writer/Blogger/Educator/Tutor

University of Benin

www.facebook.com/patrickstories

 

 

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98 thoughts on “DON’T LOSE YOURSELF

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      I will love to ask you a simple question, Have you ever thought about losing yourself when you pass through difficulty times?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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    2. So many times. Sometimes losing yourself feels like the easier way as opposed to let’s say “losing a child or marriage”

      Having gone through my own ordeal. I had to face that decision head on. I chose to rebuild myself and I’ve never looked back since.

      Liked by 4 people

    3. Thanks for the reply. I appreciate that very much.

      Your beautiful words just ignite my happiness. Thank you so much for adding such magical drop of words in my jar of motivation.

      You answers and contribution  are well noted.

      This is what i love so much in your opinion about this post as i quote”””I chose to rebuild myself and I’ve never looked back since.”””
      From my own perspective, I will tell you this, some people  are willing to lose themselves for small things, or for small benefits,

      That is the true fact about it.Am happy for the response you gave to me.

      Lastly,I feel blessed by your response right now.Again such a beautiful way to contribute here on my post
      Keep the vibes on.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for the comment. I love it very much.
      Have you ever felt like losing yourself when difficulty come across you?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

    2. Yea felt like that quite long back.. but now i don’t feel like that anymore. I’ve become more and more positive soul. I rarely feel depressed now 😊😊✨❤

      Liked by 1 person

    3. Thanks for replying  back to me.
      I guess you find my replies to your comment interesting.Am totally happy for your reply to. I really enjoyed the reply and again making you feel nice at this very moment.

      I feel blessed also by your respond to my question right now.
      I found delight love in what you just answered now as i quote “”””but now i don;t feel like that anymore. I have become more and more positive soul. I rarely feel depressed now 😊😊✨❤”””

      Keep the positive vibes on.

      Again such a beautiful to commend on this post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Am happy right now for such word as i quote””This is so profound and so relevant! Love it.”””

      I will love to ask you a simple question base on my post.
      What is you contribution about this post?
      Have you ever felt like losing yourself?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 2 people

    2. Wow.that is cool. I guess you are such a positive minded person.

      Thanks for the reply. I appreciate that very much.Your beautiful words just ignite my happiness.

      You answers and contribution  are well noted. Apart from that i will tell you this, some people  are willing to lose themselves for small things, or for small benefits. Which i know is not good at all. Tomorrow can be an opportunity.That is the true fact about it.Am happy for the response you gave to me.

      Lastly,I feel blessed by your response right now.Again such a beautiful way to contribute here on my post.
      Keep the vibes on.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    3. You totally welcome dear chini.
         I am trying to promote the peace-love award just like the other award we have here on wordpress. You have been selected for this award. I will be happy if you appreciation is showed on the comment box with the link provided below. Again, you follow the criterias for the best 5 nominees of yours also.
      https://patrickrealstories.wordpress.com/2018/04/08/normination-link-for-my-first-50-persons-bloggers-for-the-peace-love-writer-awardfirst-promo/

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.Am happy for such response you gave to me  here.
      Again, I will love your own contribution here on the this very post.
      Any contributions we be welcome here.

      What are your opinion about losing oneself?
      What your contribution and idealogy on this post?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.Am happy for such response you gave to me  here.
      Again, I will love your own contribution here on this. I know you always have something to say about my post.

      Do you like my opinion base on my write up?
      What is your own view about the post?
      Does it happen in your normal day life.

      Any contributions we be welcome here.

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.Am happy for such response you gave to me  here.
      Again, I will love your own contribution here
      Any contributions we be welcome here.

      What is your opinion here about the post?

      Does it suite you as a person?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.Am happy for such response you gave to me  here.
      Again, I will love your own contribution here.
      Any contributions we be welcome here.

      What your own idea about losing oneself?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

    2. Hi Patrick,

      you are so welcome.I agree with your words, and I usually say Great post when I don’t have anything to add. But I will tell you this, some people are willing to lose themselves for small things, or for small benefits, and here is the question Have they ever had themselves !?

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    3. Thanks for the reply. I appreciate that very much.

      Your beautiful words just ignite my happiness. Thank you so much for adding such magical drop of words in my jar of motivation.

      You answers and contribution are well noted as i quote”””But I will tell you this, some people are willing to lose themselves for small things, or for small benefits,”””

      That is the true fact about it.Am happy for the response you gave to me.

      Lastly,I feel blessed by your response right now.Again such a beautiful way to contribute here on my post
      Keep the vibes on.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    4. Patrick,

      you are really so grateful. You are so welcome. The most important thing in life,in world is gratitude.We have enough reasons everyday to be grateful. We should be grateful for everything we have, and I am sure that we have a lot of things to be grateful. And you are very aware of this fact.

      Thank you Patrick

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    5. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Wow..you have the same reasoning as me as i speak to you. You just said what i was about saying. I guess our meeting here was for a reason.

      Am happy for this particular quote you just said “””The most important thing in life,in world is gratitude.”””
      I am very very much aware of the fact.
      Gratitude is just what we need. For me I have enough to be grateful which i can say here. But the highest one is I AM ALIVE.

      Thanks again for reading this comment up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Yeah, very good to realize when to stop.
      Have you been in such situation before?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Am happy right now for such word as i quote””This is so profound and so relevant! Love it.”””

      I will love to ask you a simple question base on my post.
      What is you contribution about this post?
      Have you ever felt like losing yourself?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

  1. It’s funny–I used to think I’d lose my mind if I lost certain things, especially my job. I had the opportunity (never thought I’d use that word) to experience job loss recently. I had one day of fear, most attached to losing health insurance since I have a very expensive chronic condition.

    After one day, I discovered that I had more opportunity than I had ever imagined. I had time and energy to work on relationships that had suffered. I had more time to do what I loved–writing. I wasn’t sure how to make it all work, but I didn’t worry– after that first day–that I would.

    I experienced, on a very small scale, what my life could be like after such a loss. And I was joyful.

    It was temporary; I was reinstated a week later. But it certainly granted the perspective that I was so sorely lacking.

    I’m looking to life after loss of job again, and working towards that.

    Thank you for your post!

    ~Nan

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  2. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

    Your beautiful words just ignite my happiness. Thank you so much for adding such magical drop of words in my jar of motivation.

    Am not the type who reads long comment on my post since it’s talking about LOSING ONESELF. I have to read and make my own view about it. Your comment and explaination are quite OK.
    Your beautiful words just made my day. Thank you so much for adding such magical drop of words in my jar of motivation and your views on LOVE.I feel blessed by your writing right now.

    What i loved here so much was when you said “”I discovered that I had more opportunity than I had ever imagined.”” This touched and melted my heart.

    Everyday is always an opportunity to be blessed if you are a positive minded person.

    I felt bad when you said about you Job loss. I have been in such situation, but moving on was not easy. I understand what you felt.

    Again sorry for that chronic disease. Not easy combining such with your job loss that period.

    As i read,i was comparing the first statement ( funny;I used to think l;d lose my mind if I lost certain things, especially my job.) and the other statement (It was temporary; I was reinstated a week later).
    Inside the statements, i found out you were a positive minded person. Keep it up.

    You answers and contribution  are well noted.Am pleased with such comment.

    This is what i love so much in your opinion about this post as i quote”””I discovered that I had more opportunity than I had ever imagined”””

    From my own perspective, I will tell you this, some people  are willing to lose themselves for small things, or for small benefits, which are not good because they are many opportunities waiting tomorrow.That is the true fact about it.

    Am happy for the response you gave to me.

    Lastly,I feel blessed by your response right now.Again such a beautiful way to contribute here on my post.

    Keep the vibes on.

    Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❤

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Am happy right now for such word as i quote””This is so profound and so relevant! Love it.”””

      I will love to ask you a simple question base on my post.
      What is you contribution about this post?
      Have you ever felt like losing yourself?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Like

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Am happy right now for such word as i quote””This is so profound and so relevant! Love it.”””

      I will love to ask you a simple question base on my post.
      What is you contribution about this post?
      Have you ever felt like losing yourself?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Like

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Am happy right now for such word as i quote””This is so profound and so relevant! Love it.”””

      I will love to ask you a simple question base on my post.
      What is you contribution about this post?
      Have you ever felt like losing yourself?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 1 person

    2. Thanks for replying  back to me.
      I guess you find my replies to your comment interesting.

      We learn from every circumstances we get in life. How did you past through that period?

      Am totally happy for your reply to. I really enjoyed such comment.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.Am happy for such response you gave to me  here.
      Again, I will love your own contribution here on the this very post.
      Any contributions we be welcome here.

      What are your opinion about losing oneself?
      What your contribution and idealogy on this post?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Like

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      Am happy right now for such word as i quote””This is so profound and so relevant! Love it.”””

      I will love to ask you a simple question base on my post.
      What is you contribution about this post?
      Have you ever felt like losing yourself?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Like

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.Am happy for such response you gave to me  here.
      Again, I will love your own contribution here on the this very post.

      Not a most to involved losing someone you loved.
      Any contributions we be welcome here.

      What are your opinion about losing oneself?
      What your contribution and idealogy on this post?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Liked by 2 people

    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.Am happy for such response you gave to me  here.
      Again, I will love your own contribution here on the this very post.
      Any contributions we be welcome here.

      What are your opinion about losing oneself?
      What your contribution and idealogy on this post?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

      Like

    2. Losing oneself seems easier than facing the ordeal face to face. I think most of us tend to fear about the results .
      But then as I said everything happens with a reason. And life has to go on as this shall pass with time.
      The best gift to a person is being strong and be a winner to themselves.

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    3. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion, no matter you agree with me or not.Because your opinion is always valuable to me.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

  3. This is a mind blowing post! And I totally agree with what you said. Often than not, we get too engaged in a mad rush, pursuing what lies ahead of us, that we forget the very essence of what made us unique. Thanks for sharing…. I’m having a wonderful time reading through your posts😊

    Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.That really means a lot to me. After reading your comment I am really feeling blessed.

      Here is a question for you.
      Have you ever felt losing yourself?

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

    1. I just skimmed through your comment 🙂 And I must say, you do write in a way that gives people a chance to think. Please keep the words coming, sunnies 🙂 Look forward to reading more from you.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.That really means a lot to me.
      I love that part where you said””We have to remember our purpose in life but most importantly stay true to ourselves!!”””

      After reading your comment I am really feeling blessed.

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    2. That is true. Am in total agreement to that quote””it is so easy to lose sight of our objectives and even morals at times.””

      Lastly I appreciate you comment very much.
      You welcome dear friend.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion, no matter you agree with me or not.Because your opinion is always valuable to me.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

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