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Talking about circle of friends, i found this quote very inspiring:

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If someone wants to walk out of your life…. LET THEM GO especially when you have done your best, You have put in your Time, your Energy and have been the best person to them.

They say “You don’t know what you have till you loose it” and when they realise they made a mistake it would be too late for them to come back running to you.

Some people come into your life for a lifetime while some come in for a season and some also come in for a reason. You have to realise which is which to avoid mixing the  seasonal people with the lifetime expectations.

You realise your life has turned to SHIT, you are never happy and you wonder why you never have peace.From my own personal view am using the tree as an example of friends. A tree is made up of;

1. The branches

2. Theleaves

3.the  roots 

1.The branches -Some people are like a Branch on a Tree, they make you think they are good friends – strong and reliable but when you step on them they break off and leave you dry.

2.The leaves-Some people are like Leaves on a Tree. When the wind blows they move, always unstable. Season changes they wither and die off. Most people in the world are only there to take from the Tree never adding value.

3.The roots-But these are very rare, the Roots, if you find some people who are like the Roots of a tree then you are truly blessed because  they are not going anywhere. They are not worried about being seen, they are not worried about what people will say or about what they doing for you.

You can have a million branches but without the Roots, the Tree can’t live. So if you have some Roots in your life hold on to them and the rest you LET THEM GO.

After analzing this tree concept, I scrolled through my contact list and differentiated the Roots from the Leaves and the Branches.I said NO MORE… I kept a far distance from them and i concentrated of fixing Myself. And also holding to the root categories of friends which i know right from high school.

At this point of my life i have to make a choice about whom i keep as friends in my workplace, my neighbourhood and my place of worship.At some point in my life i was seeking for a good frienship which will lead to a good relationship and then life partner.

But later i view it from other angle: The Philosophy of Life-When you want something does not necessarily mean it will come that particular time Nope but it happens at the Right Time not at Your Time.

I rather be by myself and my root categories of friends  than be with the branch and leaves making me miserable for the rest of my Life.

My question for you

  1. How well have you kept your circle of friends
  2. Are  your friends among the branch, leaves or roots

 

Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

 

Written by:
Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka
Writer/Blogger/Educator/Tutor
University of Benin
www.facebook.com/patrickstories

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91 thoughts on “PATRICK VIEW- CIRCLE OF FRIENDS

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.
      Your comment always   touches my heart. It is really great to know more about you.I think everyone can relate to your comment.

      Words are powerless to express my gratitude towards you, for reading my every post and for always leaving a thoughtful comment.

      What is you contribution about this post?
      Is your circle of friends under the root type?

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion.Because your opinion is always valuable to me.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  1. As I have gotten older I have not such large group of friends as we have all moved away from where we were born. Now they are spread across the globe, but we still remain close. I often write about them in my blogs in the stories from childhood…

    Mike

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.
      Your comment always   touches my heart. It is really great to know more about you.I think everyone can relate to your comment.

      Words are powerless to express my gratitude towards you, for reading my every post and for always leaving a thoughtful comment.

      Love to ask a simple question on this post.
      What made you choose them as part of your circle of friends?

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Thanks for replying  back to me.

      I guess you find my replies to your comment interesting.

      What type of choice…..career pursuit, marriage , education or what.

      Am totally happy you replied back to me.
      Keep the vibes on

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    3. We lived in the same village, went to the same school, and shared similar backgrounds. More that all of this was the fact that we were all decent human beings (although we were boys at the time).

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      What is your idea about the 3 friends in terms of tree parts-
      Root
      branch
      Leaves?

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.That really means a lot to me. After reading my post I guess you feel blessed .

      What’s your idea about keeping a circle of friends?
      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Thanks for replying  back to me.I guess you find my replies to your comment interesting.

      Am totally happy you replied back to me.
      And again thanks for answering my question.

      I really enjoyed the part where you said”””I can count then on one hand”””.
      I really enjoyed such comment and you contribution.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  2. You can have a million branches but without the Roots, the Tree can’t live.

    So true. I am close to very few people and those people are like the roots of the tree. Those few friends mean everything to me. As we grow up we realize that it is less important to have a lot of friends because they are like branches but the real ones actually care about what you’re going through so they are like the roots of tree. Always keep the real ones close ❤️😊

    Thank you for sharing such an amazing post. 😊😊

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    1. Thank you Rudraa, I am most honored by your kind sweet comment. I am also glad you enjoyed it while you read. Thank you a million times

      I just skimmed through your comment now🙂 And I must say, you do write in a way that gives people a chance to think. Please keep the words coming, Rudraa Makwana🙂 Look forward to seeing more of you views and contribution.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. You are free to do Haiku on it..Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post. That really means a lot to me. After reading your comment I am really feeling blessed.

      What is your own contribution and view on the post.?

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thanks for stopping by and commenting on my post,i appreciate that very much.

      I will love to ask you a simple question base on my post.
      What is you contribution about this post?

      What your view about the circle of friends?

      Thanks again for reading this post up to the end. I guess you find it interesting.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace and Love

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    2. “Friends ” are the precious gift of god given to us. Without friends we can’t imagine our life ( including family, relatives etc. ) . For me Friends are a word that we can’t define because it has thousands of meaning. You said very well “Some people come into your life for a lifetime while some come in for a season and some also come in for a reason. You have to realise which is which to avoid mixing the seasonal people with the lifetime expectations.”

      I was surrounded by the people of different mentality. What do I realise that something was common in all they were running for pleasure , ambition , money and fun in order to get prosperity of cherish moment and they used to hide their identity and being fake , to be an icon .The most crucial lesson that I learnt so far is that how much time you spend with the person don’t matter but how much you learn from his experiences matters a lot. I have not large number of friends but my circle of friends based upon my choice. I’m also trying holding to the “ root ” categories of friends.

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    3. I just skimmed through your comment 🙂 And I must say, you do write and comment in a way that gives people a chance to think. Please keep the words coming, namratapasbola🙂 Look forward in seeing more comment from you.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.
      Your comment touches my heart. It is really great to know more about you.I think everyone can relate to your comment.

      Words are powerless to express my gratitude towards you, for reading my every post and for always leaving a thoughtful comment.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  3. Due to change, time and the aging process, those that would have been called “friends” are gone now… I don’t put labels on people, just recognize them for who they are and feel… 🙂

    “I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go, things go wrong so that you can appreciate them when they’re right, you believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart so better things can fall together”… Marilyn Monroe

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.
      Your comment always   touches my heart. It is really great to know more about you.I think everyone can relate to your comment.

      I love the quote of Marilyn Monroe.
      Words are powerless to express my gratitude towards you, for reading my every post and for always leaving a thoughtful comment.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  4. Very nice post. Luckily i found roots in my friends. Branches or leaves need not necessarily mean they dont make good friends, its only that they were not like minded to one. Maybe they would be roots for someone else but agree that we should concentrate on the most dear ones to turn them to roots.

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    1. Fantastic comment to my post.You are a phenomenal person with such incredible comment like this as I quote —

      ********************************************
      We should concentrate on the most dear ones to turn them to roots
      ********************************************

      I am so glad that I am able to follow you and get to know you!!!
      I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing week.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  5. True friends are definitely rare. I have a few – and I thought I had a few others but if I’m not treated right, I will walk away so fast! Many have been “leaves” and very unstable or just immature. It’s kind of disappointing as an adult when you realize how shitty many people can be. As a kid, it’s kind of nice to be able to see that or recognize it.

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.That really means a lot to me. After reading your comment I am really feeling blessed.

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words and again your own contribution on this post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  6. Wow….I so much love this write up. A true friend is someone who stays, someone who adds value to your life, someone who’s there at all times. They are most often not seen all the time, but they are very essential( just like the root).
    However,I think friendship has different shades. …and each shade best suit the purpose for which its needed. There are people who’ll come into your life just for a season. They have a role to play then. And when times up, it’s but normal they leave. Least of all…they all create some certain level of impact!!

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      Your comment touches my heart. It is really great to know more about you. I think everyone can relate to your comment.

      This is the part I have to relate to as I quote- “”A true friend is someone who stays, someone who adds value to your life, someone who’s there at all times.””

      Words are powerless to express my gratitude towards you, for reading my every post and for always leaving a thoughtful comment.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you Sharon I am most honored by your kind sweet comment. I am also glad you enjoyed it while you read.
      Thanks for your contribution on this post
      Thank you a million…

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Am doing very well miss mirchand
      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.That really means a lot to me. After reading your comment I am really feeling blessed.

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.That really means a lot to me. After reading your comment I am really feeling blessed.

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.That really means a lot to me.

      What is your opinion about your circle of friends?

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    2. Thank you iScribkr, I am most honored by your kind sweet comment. I am also glad you enjoyed my post while you read. Thank you a millions times for the reply.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thanks for sharing your knowledge and your experience.

      I will check on it very soon

      Thank you Mrs,

      Love to ask a simple question. What part of friends do you keep
      Roots
      Leaves
      Branches

      I promise you will glad and you will enjoyed it while you read. Thank you a million…

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.That really means a lot to me.

      Love to ask a simple question
      What is your own idea about your circle of friends?
      Did the post touch you positively or negatively?

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for your nice words.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Thank you Mrs, I am most honored by your kind sweet comment.

      Love to ask a simple question. What part of caring and sharing do you love most?

      I am also glad you enjoyed it while you read. Thank you a million…

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  7. True friends are rare and truly dependable just like roots you mentioned . Love your comparison with the tree – branches , leaves and roots . Before I count my roots , I would like to ask my friends if I fit into their root category too .

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.
      Your comment always   touches my heart. It is really great to know more about you.I think everyone can relate to your comment.

      This is the part I like most and very funny and thoughtful “”Before I count my roots , I would like to ask my friends if I fit into their root category too .

      Words are powerless to express my gratitude towards you, for reading my post and for always leaving a thoughtful comment.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thank you Mrs, I am most honored by your kind sweet comment.

      Love to ask a simple question. Which part of circle of friends do you keep?
      Whats your contribution to this post?

      I am also glad you enjoyed it while you read. Thank you a million…

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

  8. Mann … wow … the analogy is amazing. I’m an Arborist among other things, so the thought is close to me. The friends who are roots ❤ I have never heard this and it is so true. I am going to do the same … see where my roots are. Well storied … 🙂

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    1. Your comment just touche my heart. It is really great to know more about you.I think everyone can relate to your comment.
      Such a fantastic comment. Thanks alot.

      Thank again for showing interest in  my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thank you Mrs, I am most honored by your kind sweet comment.

      Love to ask a simple question. What part of circle of friend categories do you choose?

      I am also glad you enjoyed it while you read. Thank you a million…

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  9. I agree about people leaving friendships that are bad for them and focusing their time and energy on better friendships. I left friendships that felt unhealthy for me and wouldn’t improve but unfortunately, am left at the moment with no friends left. I still think this will benefit me in the long run, though, since it frees up more time and energy for me to focus on meeting people who are more compatible with me in the future and developing those friendships.

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    1. I feel blessed and happy  by your comment and Analysis on this post right now.

      This comment made me smile 😄😄😄. I guess i enjoyed such comment especially this first one:

      “””” I agree about people leaving friendships that are bad for them and focusing their time and energy on better friendships.””””

      I kind of understand you now about this:
      It get hard sometimes and you found running wasting time and energy on friendship that have no gain at all.

      Lasty, thanks again for taking your time to comment on this post.I appreciate that very much.

      Again, i will love to knoq more about you. Am kind of inspired now by your comment.

      You welcome.

      Enjoy the week.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. I tried reaching you on your email you provided in the site. But its invalid when i tried sending message.

      I will love to keep you as part of my circle of friend. Here are my details:

      For any information email me:@patrickreallstories@gmail.com

      like my Facebook Page (patrickstories)

      follow me on instagram@ patrickstories

      Phone Number: +2349038156756

      Chat me up on whatsapp@
      +2349037034299

      Editor: PATRICK @patrickrealstories.wordpress.com

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    3. Hmm, that worries me, since it would’ve been nice to see that email and, in addition, I need to be able to get emails in general. My mom is good with computers, so I’ll ask her if she can look into this after she wakes up (most people in my part of the world have just gone to bed around now). I just liked you Facebook page (I’m guessing you’d get a notification for that – I’m Shae Dennis, in the purple shirt). I’ll ask my phone’s customer service people tomorrow if it can do long distance calls – I get a free phone from my government, which in some ways can be different from a regular phone, so I’m not sure if it’ll do anything that fancy. My phone is also not fancy enough to get Whatsapp, but I’m getting a tablet in the mail soon, so I might be able to use it on that. I’m not sure. I see that your Facebook page has a message button. Can I message you there? If not, hopefully I can get my email working or find a way to make a long distance call or get Whatsapp, even if it might take a while. I appreciate that you sent your contact information and hope that we can find a way to stay in touch 🙂 I’ll let you know what I find out about these various things.

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    4. Thanks for the long comment. Am really sorry for that. Your message went on spam folder. I just notice it. Ok

      Here are the detail on how to reach me ok. Am sorry again for that.

      For any information email me:@patrickreallstories@gmail.com

      like my Facebook Page (patrickstories)

      follow me on instagram@ patrickstories

      Chat me up on whatsapp@ +2349038156756

      Editor: PATRICK @patrickrealstories.wordpress.com

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for the long comment. Am really sorry for that. Your message went on spam folder. I just notice it. Ok

      Here are the detail on how to reach me ok. Am sorry again for that.

      For any information email me:@patrickreallstories@gmail.com

      like my Facebook Page (patrickstories)

      follow me on instagram@ patrickstories

      Chat me up on whatsapp@ +2349038156756

      Editor: PATRICK @patrickrealstories.wordpress.com

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

  10. Thanks for the long comment. Am really sorry for that. Your message went on spam folder. I just notice it. Ok

    Here are the detail on how to reach me ok. Am sorry again for that.

    For any information email me:@patrickreallstories@gmail.com

    like my Facebook Page (patrickstories)

    follow me on instagram@ patrickstories

    Chat me up on whatsapp@ +2349038156756

    Editor: PATRICK @patrickrealstories.wordpress.com

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❤

    Liked by 1 person

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