In Honour Of Women

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They smile when they want to scream.
They sing when they want to cry.
They cry when they are happy.
They laugh when they are nervous.
They fight for what they believe in.
They stand up for injustice.
They don’t take “no” for an answer when they believe there is a better solution.
They go without new shoes so their children can have them.
They go to the doctor with a frightened friend.
They love unconditionally.
They cry when their children excel and cheer when their friends get awards.
They are happy when they hear about a birth or a new marriage.
Their hearts break when a friend dies.
They have sorrow at the loss of a family member, yet they are strong when they think there is no strength left.
They know that a hug and a kiss can heal a broken heart.Women come in all sizes, in all colors and shapes.
They’ll drive, fly, walk, run or e-mail you to show how much they care about you.
The heart of a woman is what makes the world spin!
Women do more than just give birth.They bring joy and hope.
They give compassion and ideals.
They give moral support to their family and friends.
Women have a lot to say and a lot to give.
Pass this along to your women friends,


to remind them how amazing they are.
My question for my fellow bloggers/viewers/readers:
1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?
3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?
Written by:
Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka
Writer/Blogger/Educator/Tutor
University of Benin
www.facebook.com/patrickstories
Credited to : MY MOTHER AND MY SISTER
MRS KOGWUONYE RITA NGOZI
SISTER KOGWUONYE HENRIETTA OGOR

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160 thoughts on “IN HONOUR OF WOMEN

    1. All creations of God need to be respected and treated well. Even animals have their own self respect and need freedom. Yes but some ego works and man think he is superior. This is because of his ignorance. We should move ahead from male female etc and should understand the ultimate in this human life.

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    2. Yes…..every thing have they own respect…a day old child deserve a respect…

      Again… Respect is reciprocal….

      Are you a women….the way you write…is like you are a woman and a mother of children…..
      Just asking do not get offened
      This is patrick for you

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a poetry post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  1. So very true. I wouldn’t want to give up being a woman matter how many man wish see these traits as being something negative. Also, thank you for coming to my blog for Jamie. Its a hard life for people caught in the prison system. Writing a biography and music is time consuming. Its hard to get back to blogs that are worthwhile to read.Read a chapter r two. Tell me what you think. Have a great weekend.

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that.

      Am touched by the statement at the beginning of your comment as I quote:

      “”””” So very true. I wouldn’t want to give up being a woman matter how many man wish see these traits as being something negative. “””

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment Mrs SonniQ

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  2. This was beautiful. Salute to the amazing brothers out there also.
    My mother left when I was eleven months old. I met her at the age of 21. Meeting her was the start of finding my voice and most importantly although she left. She gave me life and I am so grateful to her for that.

    My advice to young mothers would be that we are all figuring it out. No one has a Pinterest perfect, carebears, rainbows and glitter motherhood path. LOL! Pressure reveals what is in you. So you will lose yourself sometimes and come home to yourself a lot. Something about loving any human your greatest teacher especially your children. Don’t be so hard on yourself. You are still beautiful. Motherhood is not a grave where dreams go to die. You are capable. Stay grounded when you can. Fly when you need to. Hold tight to your faith forever.

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    1. I just skimmed through your comment and the comment was wow. And I must say, it really cool.

      OK that is really true.

      Love this part where you said :

      ‘”””””””” No one has a Pinterest perfect, care bears, rainbows and glitter motherhood path.

      “””””””””

      Motherhood is not about trying to be a perfect among all. Put try and see that you do things in a perfect way and manner.

      As I went down I saw a good number of advice you said in your comment. Am touched by this little gestures of advice you gave out.

      From the summary of the advice is all about
      1.Teaching your children.
      2. Love and confidence.
      3. Having a strong and tight Faith.

      I guess this characteristics in your advice to mothers matters a lot.

      Thanks for commenting. I appreciate your views on this post.
      Please keep the words coming Mrs/Miss Mellowed blog

      Look forward to seeing more inspired comment from you.

      Thank you so much for adding a little inspired word to me this morning.

      HAPPY SUNDAY

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  3. Lovely tribute to your mother and sister. I admire Chimamanda Adiche’s writing.
    One thing I am thankful for is that my mother instilled in me a strong sense of gratitude/ thankfulness, as we were without a father and we didn’t always get everything we wanted! She also laid a strong spiritual foundation for me since birth, teaching me about God, living by faith and how to pray.😁

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    1. Hi
      Thanks for commenting on my post. I appreciate your thoughtful comment on this post about women.

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment on this post. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to see a comment that gives me happiness and also a comment about a person view on a post/poem.

      Am happy you shared at least a part of that view of women.

      What you said in your comment box about the post is true.

      As I read through your comment, am in total agreement with this because I was taught also about all this things by my mother:

      1. Strong spiritual foundation.
      2. Teaching me about God.
      3.Living by faith and
      4. How to pray.😁

      Each roles of mothers are different depending on there capabilities. So its nice not to compare another persons mother to others.

      In the beginning you draw my attention about about not having a Father. Am touched by this:

      “””””””” One thing I am thankful for is that my mother instilled in me a strong sense of gratitude/ thankfulness, as we were without a father and we didn’t always get everything we wanted! “”””””””

      Am really sorry for that. OK. All is well.

      Well, am happy you said your view about this post.

      Finally, I will love to ask a simple question.

      What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      Love to see a nice and beautiful reply on the question put after you.

      Happy Sunday

      Good one. Keep motivating me.

      Cheers, MEI MAFINDA

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. The peom was nice, my mother is my world,Everything she has done for me is what i appreaciate.my advice to young Mothers is to train a Child in a Godly manner.i also pray for strength and wisdom for the young Mothers.

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    3. Thanks for responding and replying back to me. I appreciate that very much.

      Thanks for once more for the comment.
      I appreciate that very much.
      It shows your concern for such post.

      Again THANK YOU VERY MUCH

      I still remain  the simple blogger…..

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. 1. It is a lovely poem and no truer words were ever spoken, not enough is said about the mothers of this world and the sacrifices they make.. 🙂

      2. Everything!… 🙂

      3. The young mother to follow her dream, all the while allowing her children to follow their dream.. 🙂

      “Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow them.” Louisa May Alcott

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    3. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful response. Such an awesome way of answering and replying someone. Thanks. Again

      You quote are very good, educative and inspires me always.

      I love this one quite well:

      “Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow them.”

      Louisa May Alcott

      I’m always excited for your response here. 🙂

      You are welcome Mrs Dutchll

      Happy Sunday Mrs Dutchll

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  4. Great post and a beautiful tribute to women everywhere! Simple and wonderfully written showing the many amazing attributes of an elegant yet strong creature. Women deserve to be celebrated and appreciated so thank you for doing just that.

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion.

      Am in love with this part as I quote:

      “””” Women deserve to be celebrated and appreciated so thank you for doing just that.

      “”””‘”

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      2. What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  5. 1. Women are very important just as men in society. They should be allowed to be whatever they want to be to contribute to a better world
    2. She made sacrifices for her children and. Created an environment which promoted growth. She also prayed for us without ceasing
    3.just be mothers. Care for your children, be present and loving and truthful

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    1. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful response. Such an awesome and brilliant way of answering the questions put before you. Thanks Again.

      I love to add this quote to support your comment :

      “Far away there in the sunshine are my highest aspirations. I may not reach them but I can look up and see their beauty, believe in them, and try to follow them.”

      Louisa May Alcott

      I’m always excited for your response here.
      🙂
      You are welcome Mrs Village TalkCaribguhl

      Happy Monday Mrs Village TalkCaribguhl

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  6. As i tool my time to read and like all your previous post, including this one, i must say that you are good Patrick and you sure do take your time to serve us with interesting post and i appreciate that,
    No 13, 14, 20 #Fact about you#are really correct.
    Keep it up dear

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  7. A brilliantly written and moving tribute to women the world over. You have captured so much of what is taken for granted in our patriarchal societies and your words are a challenge to all men and to society in general – your profoundly moving words and the addition of the great writer Chinamanda Adichie is a deeply personal and powerful tribute to women.

    Long may your pen be dipped in ink, my friend.

    The struggles continue BUT we shall continue the struggles wherever we are.

    Thank you again for such a powerful and inspiring piece of work.

    Warmest wishes to you and yours.

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    1. Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a story/post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      These words of encouragement here are enough to motivate me.

      I appreciate your time use in telling me these great words like

      1. A brilliantly written and moving tribute to women the world over. 

      2. Long may your pen be dipped in ink, my friend.

      3. Thank you again for such a powerful and inspiring piece of work.

      Am happy you did your own contribution on the post.

      I will love to ask a simple question:

      1. What are your idea about women in your society or where you stay?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be happy if I get a nice and beautiful reply on the question put before you.

      Thanks for taking time and reading the poem to your own understanding.

      I really appreciate that very much.

      Thanks again Afzal Moolla

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful comment on my blog. Am happy you have to comment on it. I will keep updating my blog so you read more sweet stories from me.

      My views are OK and easy to understand.

      Such an awesome way of commenting on me. Thanks. Again.

      Such an awesome way of replying someone. Thanks. Again

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      You are welcome

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    3. In response to your questions, my friend …

      1. It is not easy for women to express their individuality and to be respected for who they are in the society in which I live. It is a very judgemental society and unfortunately, still in the 21st century – what men say is taken seriously while disregarding the views and opinions of women.

      2. My mother was a nurse and worked in the 1950s and 1960s at a time in South Africa when Apartheid was firmly entrenched and I think her respect for patients and the sick people she nursed is worthy of appreciation. It is always heartwarming to meet an older person who has kind words to say about ones mother.

      3. It is very difficult for a man to offer advice to women in general and young mothers in particular. As a man I am unable to truly understand what it means and feels like to be a mother. It would be so much more true for me to hear your words of advice to young mothers in the outside world.

      Thank you again and warmest wishes.

      Peace and Hope and Equality for All ✌✊👍

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    4. Thanks for the comment. Thank for the reply also. Thanks for taking your time to read.

      A brilliantly written and moving comment/reply based on the question asked about the post.

      As I skimmed through your answers, the words you used are marvelous and beautiful.

      In response to question 1 that you answered
      All are based by authority and male dominance in some organization in the society making women less respected in the society as there views and opinion are not considered as anything because she is a women.

      According to a popular literature book “”” we should all be feminist “””

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

      ********************************************

      Men and women are different. We have different hormones and different sexual organs
      and different biological abilities—women can have babies, men cannot. Men have more
      testosterone and are, in general, physically stronger than women. There are slightly
      more women than men in the world—52 percent of the world’s population is female—
      but most of the positions of power and prestige are occupied by men. The late Kenyan
      Nobel peace laureate Wangari Maathai put it simply and well when she said, the higher
      you go, the fewer women there are.

      ********************************************

      Because of this it gave rise to gender equality that is been declared by feminist.

      According to a popular literature book “””. Dear ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestions “””

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

      “”””””” Teach her, too, to
      question the idea of women as a special species. I once heard an American politician, in his
      bid to show his support for women, speak of how women should be ‘revered’ and
      ‘championed’ – a sentiment that is all too common.
      Tell Chizalum that women actually don’t need to be championed and revered; they just need
      to be treated as equal human beings. There is a patronizing undertone to the idea of women
      needing to be ‘championed and revered’ because they are women. It makes me think of
      chivalry, and the premise of chivalry is female weakness.

      “”””””

      The society again has made male patriarchy’s so important that women are not given any position. Again also in terms of power and authority, the society has made men as the point to handle such. Even in the school setting, government establishment and private firm. Women are seen as less and weak to accept such position.

      Thus making this easy for men to suppress women.

      Am still interested in this your answer to question 1. There is a part I love most as I quote:

      “””””””‘” It is a very judgemental society and unfortunately, still in the 21st century- what men say is taken seriously while disregarding the views and opinions of women. “””””””

      I was able to deduced a prove to that statement of yours after some reading of one of the popular feminist well know as FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi

      According to a popular literature book “””. Dear ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestions “””

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

      “””””””” But here is a sad truth: our world is full of men and women who do not like powerful
      women. We have been so conditioned to think of power as male that a powerful woman is an
      aberration. And so she is policed. We ask of powerful women – is she humble? Does she
      smile? Is she grateful enough? Does she have a domestic side? Questions we do not ask of
      powerful men, which shows that our discomfort is not with power itself, but with women. We
      judge powerful women more harshly than we judge powerful men “””””””””

      Because of the ideal of power, authority and patriarchy’s, this again gave rise to different opinion to make women agitating for gender equality there by forming the word FEMINISM and FEMINIST.

      Another response you gave about the role of your mum as a nurse during the time of apartheid in southafrica. Her role was cool.

      I just remember one of our own African activist, a mother,sister,an anti-apartheid heroine Winnie Madikizela-Mandela “Mother of the South African Nation,” has a legacy of one of the nation’s most important fighters against racial discrimination and a fighter against apartheid. May her soul rest in peace.

      For the answered to question 3.
      You clearly stated that you are not in the position to know the advice to young women. I understand you. Even me too am not in the position to do that also.

      But one things is that they should teach there children or child;

      1. Peace
      2.Love
      3. Equality
      4.truthful
      5.patience.

      Thanks for giving a chance to talk to you. Am please now I have someone who have my same idea as I have.

      You are welcome Afzal Moolla.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest contribution on this post.

      Kudos to your mum for making your excel.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      2.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Thanks for that. Share your answers and thoughts on these question before you.

      1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      2. What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion.

      Am happy for that comment “”male reflections of women.””

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      2. What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Fantastic and  amazing way to comment.
      You are a straight forward person.

      You are a phenomenal person with such incredible question on my ethnicity.

      I live in the African continent. Am from Nigeria.

      Am so glad you have to ask me.

      I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing Sunday.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    3. Thank you for your kind words Patrick and Thank you for sharing your ethnicity. I have enjoyed reading some of your writings when I can. I am interested to know as someone of African descent you write and talk about feminism rather than womanism. That is why I ask for your ethnicity. To answer your questions; To be honest, an accute and concise answer is ‘Everything’ – Everything of my mother is of worth and worth appreciating. What would I say to young mothers in the outside world? (not sure what you define as “outside”) – “Choose to be Strong”
      Have a good day.

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    4. Thanks for the comment. I appreciate your time used in reading the poem.

      I know am African. I talk so much about FEMINISM because I hate how women are viewed in the society.

      We all are equal. Therefore i preach FEMINISM,GENDER EQUALITY and FEMINIST.

      Thanks for bringing up this matter about FEMINISM. I really liked comment! And it seems you are interested in me!
      I do not believe men and women should be “forced” to be the same. And I don’t think the fact that we are not the same is a problem – on the contrary, diversity is a strength.

      And exactly as you say, I strongly believe in equal rights and opportunity for all, regardless of gender (or skin colour, ethnicity etc). I believe everyone should be respected as a unique individual and not judged on the basis of being a woman or man, black or white etc.

      This is because most of the feminists I have encountered – in real life and online – have not shared the beliefs and values I described above. They have instead showed contempt, anger and even hatred towards men in general.

      That is not what I preach. Instead i preach about gender equality for both men and women.

      Therefore most FEMINIST don’t get it. They use it as a backup to cover there tracks about men.

      Nooooooooooo. That is not what FEMINISM is all about.

      I know that this is not at all true about all feminists. And I wish all feminists should have that mindset which i have.

      As I went further I saw an inspired comment about your mother. That is good and beautiful.

      By OUTSIDE I mean women in the society, community, town and cities.
      What advice to give to them? OK
      Thanks for answering
      “” Choose to be Strong “”

      Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful comment on my blog. Am happy you have to comment on it. I will keep updating my blog so you read more sweet stories from me.

      Your views are OK and easy to understand.

      Such an awesome way of commenting/replying on me. Thanks. Again.

      Such an awesome way of replying someone. Thanks. Again

      I will love to share our contact. So we talk more.

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      You are welcome

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Thanks for your thoughtful reply and answer on the question put before you.

      Again thanks for the beautiful comment on my blog/post.

      Keep the vibes on.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    5. My reference to you being African and feminism vs womanism is because the concept of WOMANISM is of African origin. It doesn’t surprise me you don’t agree with some feminists. What you are describing to be the “ideal” feminism is womanism. Feminism is founded on white Women perspectives that did not take black Women issues into account. Womanism is about reconciliation. I am Polynesian I identify as a Womanist.

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    6. You getting it wrong.
      Am not specifically saying any continent or region based on the feminism or womanism.

      You brought the womanism in to discussion.

      Whether womanism or FEMINISM. What I preach here is gender equality.

      From my own perception, I support the feminist and what they are fighting for. All humans should be equal both in the society and inside the home. Therefore womanism and FEMINISM fight for equal Right.

      Feminist fight for equality with men. I support them very well. And I love there point of view and what they try to fight for.

      Again am not been racist here like saying womanism is African and FEMINISM is white.

      Feminist can be from any where around the world. Feminist are not subjected to the White or black like you said in your comment above as I quote:

      1. My reference to you being African and feminism vs womanism is because the concept of WOMANISM is of African origin.

      2. Feminism is founded on white Women perspectives that did not take black Women issues into account.

      Feminism is all about gender equality. You can still check the definition of it on Google.

      From google using Wikipedia

      “”” Feminism is a range of political movements, ideologies, and social movements that share a common goal: to define, establish, and achieve political, economic, personal, and social equality of sexes.This includes seeking to establish educational and professional opportunities for women that are equal to those for men. “”””

      From the definition of it. Feminism is not attached to any black or white people.

      Attaching black feminist or white feminist make it look as a racism between the two. All feminist fight for equality.

      As I read deep in to your reply I saw something of interest:

      “”””” It doesn’t surprise me you don’t agree with some feminists. “”””

      I have to prove you wrong on this. I totally agree with feminist.

      You can check on my post/work on FEMINISM. Here is the link on that.

      A VIEW ON WOMAN IN THE SOCIETY- FATE OF A MANGO FRUIT

      https://patrickrealstories.wordpress.com/2018/10/07/fate-of-a-mango-fruit/

      This post/work I did is one of my best work I did on women. Where I was able to analyze women in the society based on the poem using the mango tree.

      All the comments I get all are also prove about my acceptance of FEMINIST and FEMINISM. My reply to all the comments are also proves how I support FEMINIST and FEMINISM in generally.

      From my comment I didn’t state anything about black feminist or white feminist.

      Its clear am talking about FEMINISM and FEMINIST in generally.

      Here is also a link about the comments and replies I gave to most of them.

      https://patrickrealstories.wordpress.com/2018/10/07/fate-of-a-mango-fruit/

      As I read in your comment about WOMANISM being attached to African.

      I ran towards google to check the different in it for FEMINISM.

      As I read about WOMANISM.

      From Wikipedia:

      WOMANISM is a social theory based on the history and everyday experiences of women of color. It seeks, according to womanist scholar Layli Maparyan (Phillips), to “restore the balance between people and the environment/nature and reconcil[e] human life with the spiritual dimension”.

      Or

      a form of feminism that acknowledges women’s natural contribution to society (used by some in distinction to the term feminism and its association with white women).

      I was able to get what you said about FEMINISM and WOMANISM.

      Now I understand what you saying about the two FEMINISM and WOMANISM.

      I was able to understand the differences between both of them.

      For instance, feminist battles for:

      1. Universal suffrage;
      2. Labor rights for women;
      3. Reproductive rights for women;
      4. Gender equality;
      5. Decrease of violence against women;
      6. Equal employment opportunities;
      7. Equal rights of owning properties; and
      8. Changes in the patriarchal society.

      In fact, feminism mainly fought against In fact, feminism mainly fought against the stereotypical ideals of the patriarchal society. Patriarchy was (and is) a system of power that divided societies on the basis of “traditional” gender roles.

      Conversely, women faced several restrictions:

      1. They could not vote;
      2. They could not actively participate in the country’s political life;
      3. (Sometimes) they could not work nor study;
      4. They could not own properties;
      5.They had to work in the household and take care of their children;
      6. (Sometimes) they did not have autonomy over their own bodies.

      Womanism originates from the intersectionality of oppression and discrimination faced by black women in all societies. In fact, black women’s struggle with oppression is tridimensional as they are confronted with:

      Classism;
      Sexism; and
      Racism
      In all societies, black women earn less than everyone else does; they are often marginalized and discriminated, and crimes (abuses, violence, killings, etc.) against black women are underreported and forgotten. Sadly, feminist movements often failed to address the plight of black women and to involve black and Latina women in their protests.

      Different between both of them are listed here:

      Both feminism and womanism are comprised within the framework of the struggle for women’s rights. However, there are key differences between the two:

      1. Feminism was mainly confined to middle and upper class white women and ignored the needs of black women, whereas womanism is focused on the tridimensional oppression faced by black women (sexism, racism and classism);

      2. Feminists often consider men as their enemies while womanists show solidarity with black men in their struggle against oppression and racism;

      3. Feminism strives for gender equality while womanism aims at gender reconciliation;
      Feminists often showed a lack of respect and interest in the rights of non-white women while womanists always took into consideration the rights and needs of black, Latino and white women.

      4. Womanists embrace womanhood and female sexuality whereas feminists often tried to keep the distance from anything feminine – although this is gradually changing.

      5. Feminists defined “women’s rights” on the basis of their personal experience and universalized the concept of “emancipation;” conversely, womanists and black women wanted to “create a criterion by which women of color can assess their realities, both in thought and in action;”

      6. Feminism is female-centered and issue-based whereas womanism centers black women and is equally concerned about all forms of oppression.

      Thanks for giving me the idea about FEMINISM and WOMANISM. But now am able to know the difference.

      You are welcome dear friend

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    7. It is OK and not racist to separate or associate feminism with white women and womanism with black women. That is the reality. Real conversation needs to happen without being politically correct to silence real issues. It is necessary to know the differences. I am not challenging you support women, I am engaging with you to help you understand women better. I liked your Mango writing because it was an interesting critique of your male perspective of women. However, I do feel I need to correct you in your comment above regarding the mango writing, you wrote:
      ” Where I was able to analyze women in the society based on the poem using the mango tree. ” It is incorrect to say you or anyone were ABLE to analyse women in society – however one may say it is their analytical view of women in society. And to say you analysed women in society is a huge generalization that is wrong. Its amazing men like you advocate your women!!! And I love how you write as a man about women, its good for contrast and sharing. Sometimes, men do so with their hearts and what they perceive/experienced from women but often dont fully understand the woman. This is shown by your perspective as a male the need to provide me an outline of generic definitions to a woman. Particularly to a woman that is well versed in feminism and womanism. The two concepts intertwine and necessary to learn together! but they are very different in their origins of “fighting” Not what they necessary believe in but in what is included and omitted from the two concepts.- feminism and womanism BOTH fought for equality but feminism it did not take on Black (Black meaning ALL coloured) women struggles such as oppression and racism from white men, social systems AND WHITE WOMEN including white feminists. Women needs and beliefs cannot be understood from feminism platform only. That approach in itself is reflective of a dominant approach. Feminism does not represent all womens beliefs in seeking equality – it is a part of it. Stay blessed. P.s take wikipedia with a grain of salt 🙂

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    8. Since it’s OK by you. No problem. Everyone with there own views and preceptive.

      This is as a result to what you said – It is OK and not racist to separate or associate feminism with white women and womanism with black women.)

      Another stuff I get in you comment is this particular way I place my post according to you:

      “””””” It is incorrect to say you or anyone were ABLE to analyse women in society – however one may say it is their analytical view of women in society. And to say you analysed women in society is a huge generalization that is wrong. “”””””

      Thanks for that correction. I grab what you saying. Am OK with. I will get that done as soon as possible. Thanks again for that correction.

      Now am able to see a clear view about you FEMINISM and WOMANISM. I can get up to three things here:

      1.feminism and womanism BOTH fought for equality but feminism did not take on Black (Black meaning ALL coloured) women struggles such as oppression and racism from white men, social systems AND WHITE WOMEN including white feminists.

      2. Women needs and beliefs cannot be understood from feminism platform only.

      3. Feminism does not represent all womens beliefs in seeking equality- it is a part of it.

      But one thing am able to understand in FEMINISM and WOMANISM is that they fight for Equality.

      Both of them are interwoven. According to Alice Walker She says:

      “”””” Womanist is to feminist as purple is to lavender. “””””

      Ohhhhhh. Really!!!!!!! do you really mean that. (take wikipedia with a grain of salt 🙂)

      I guess I like the way you replied me. You are just honest and straight to the point.

      Thanks again.

      You are welcome

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    9. Yeah a very great critical conversation.

      Love to get in touch with. May through social network. Facebook WhatsApp or hangout.

      Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful comment on my post about IN HOUNOUR OF WOMEN. Am happy you have to commented on it.

      My views are OK and easy to understand.

      Such an awesome way of commenting my post.

      Please I love your work on feminism. Love to get your contact so we talk more.
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      You are welcome

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    10. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion, no matter you agree with me or not.Because your opinion is always valuable to me.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    11. FhxTake Chimamanda for example she is african but she identifies or refers to herself as a feminists – thats her. Others that are not african may gravitate to womanism – my point is you cannot write about women if one does not take these complexities into account or understand womanism and feminism coexist. My comment regarding why im not surprised you dont agree with some feminists, because you stated you didnt agree with some feminists and you wished ALL feminists would have your mindset. Why? Why would a man want women to have the same mindset as he regarding feminism? Why would women take on a mans perspective about women? Surely in the platform of feminism and equality you know that is questionable and goes against it.

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    12. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a story/post that gives someone a creative thinking and making me analysed the complexity of both social frame movements FEMINISM and WOMANISM

      I know what you saying OK.
      Chimamanda is a feminist which I know very well. I have read her views and I have read her own book about feminism.

      Her own is different because she is Africa and she feminist.
      What am saying here is that nothing like black or white feminist.

      A feminist is a feminist. Nothing like a black or white feminist.

      Just trying to understand this statements you just said:

      “”””” my point is you cannot write about women if one does not take these complexities into account or understand womanism and feminism coexist. “””””

      From what I pick out is that saying that am not capable of writing about women. I get you.

      Just check how I did the analysis of women by using the Mango Tree.

      Is the not enough for me to write about women.

      The source of my inspiration about women came from that feminist Chimamanda.

      I have read and know her for like 10years. I used her views on FEMINISM. Again she is not a labelled as a black feminist. She is address as a feminist.

      Again, my topics was about honour of women. So I regard women. If I didn’t regard women I will not be writing about them.

      Again I was not writing the post in regard to FEMINISM or WOMANISM.

      The idea about FEMINISM and WOMANISM was brought by you.

      I found this uplifted comment (My comment regarding why im not surprised you dont agree with some feminists, because you stated you didnt agree with some feminists and you wished ALL feminists would have your mindset.) very interesting as I type to you.

      The mind set was saying is that some feminist are taking it too by causing fraction or problems. The aim of is that it should be handle with gentleness not with a fire approach.
      That is what my mind set OK. I think I have been able to answer this uplifted comment:

      (My comment regarding why im not surprised you dont agree with some feminists, because you stated you didnt agree with some feminists and you wished ALL feminists would have your mindset. Why? Why would a man want women to have the same mindset as he regarding feminism? )

      Am sorry if mindset make you angry. I didn’t wish to make you angry. But if I did, am Really sorry for that. Please accept my apology.😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔. Thanks very much.

      Am very happy for you to attack me. It make me have this idea : NO ONE IS PERFECT.

      This are what the contribution and views I normally put in my post so that anybody can attack me . it make me thing more about life and see how to make impact on the society using my platform(patrickreallstories) as a source.

      So I buy your opinion and views here. It still an added knowledge to me. Again NO ONE IS PERFECT.

      We are try to make ourselves perfect by heeding or following the things which we like most.

      Again PATRICK STORIES is not perfect.

      Thanks for replying me and giving me an insight about FEMINISM and WOMANISM.
      Am very happy about this.

      Thanks more and more. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss Kalo to:

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. This are always my intentions to write a story/post that gives someone a creative thinking and making me analysed the complexity of both social frame movements FEMINISM and WOMANISM

      I know what you saying is OK.
      Chimamanda is a feminist which I know very well. I have read her views and I have read her own book about feminism.

      Her own is different because she is Africa and she feminist. What am saying here is that nothing like black or white feminist.

      A feminist is a feminist. Nothing like a black or white feminist.

      Just trying to understand this statements you just said:

      “”””” my point is you cannot write about women if one does not take these complexities into account or understand womanism and feminism coexist. “””””

      From what I pick out in your comment above is that am not capable of writing about women. OK thanks for that statement.

      Let we think and review on it.
      Here is the reply:

      Just check how I did the analysis of women by using the Mango Tree. Is that not enough prove for me to write about women.

      The source of my inspiration about women came from that feminist Chimamanda.

      I have read and know her for like 10years. I used her views on FEMINISM. Again she is not a labelled as a black feminist. She is address as a feminist.

      Again, my topics was about honour of women. So I regard women. If I didn’t regard women I will not be writing about them.

      Again I was not writing the post in regard to FEMINISM or WOMANISM.

      The idea about FEMINISM and WOMANISM was brought by you to this topic.

      I found this uplifted comment (My comment regarding why im not surprised you dont agree with some feminists, because you stated you didnt agree with some feminists and you wished ALL feminists would have your mindset.) very interesting as I type to you.

      The mindset I was saying is that some feminist are taking it too by causing fraction or problems. The aim of is that it should be handle with gentleness not with a fire approach.
      That is what my mindset was all about. OK. I think I have been able to answer this uplifted comment:

      (My comment regarding why im not surprised you dont agree with some feminists, because you stated you didnt agree with some feminists and you wished ALL feminists would have your mindset. Why? Why would a man want women to have the same mindset as he regarding feminism? )

      Am sorry if the mindset I said earlier make you angry. I didn’t wish to make you angry. But if I did, am Really sorry for that. Please accept my apology.😔😔😔😔😔😔😔😔. Thanks very much.

      Am very happy for you to attack me. It make me have this idea : NO ONE IS PERFECT.

      It give me the courage to write more about views and contribution of one’s comment on any published post I make.

      This is why i normally put “”contribution and views”” on each post.

      I normally put in my post so that anybody can attack me . It makes me think more about life and see how to make impact on the society using my platform(patrickreallstories) as a source.

      So I buy your opinion and views here. It still an added knowledge to me. Again NO ONE IS PERFECT.

      We try to make ourselves perfect by heeding or following the things which we like most.

      Again PATRICK STORIES is not perfect. You are free to say you VIEWS and CONTRIBUTIONS on a post.

      Thanks for replying me and giving me an insight about FEMINISM and WOMANISM.
      Am very happy about this.

      Thanks more and more. 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss Kalo to:

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    13. I’m not angry with you, we are critically discussing something. Challenging discussions can be beneficial. You are courageous to write about such topics and especially writing about women Patrick ! It’s awesome to see! I personally like it. Women and men can learn different perspectives , views and even about themselves from opposite genders writing about the other. Til our next discussion 🙂

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    14. In respect to the mindset I was saying.

      I feel blessed by your writing right now.
      I found delight love and joy in what you just wrote about women and feminism.

      I fully understand that there is also questionable and goes against it.

      I will love my own part of the contribution here and the feminist I have come across.

      Here is the little summary:

      I asked a Muslim girl who is my friend on Facebook, an Algerian  girl. She is a blogger also.  After a long chat we discussed some recent issues about women in the Society and likewise Chinanmanda Ngozi Adichie a popular feminist in USA(the writer of purple hibiscus)

      So I throw up a question to her

      Question- Can you be a Feminist?

      Her answer(reply)
      One thing you should know about feminism is that there are many kinds of feminisms. Not all movements have the same goals and views. I can be a feminist. I might agree with some feminists like Adichie because they speak of troubles women go through in certain places and it makes sense. What I don’t agree with, though, is being a fanatical feminist, those who are fighting just for the sake of fighting. There needs to be a cause and as a Muslim woman, I fully believe that my religion has covered all what a woman needs to have. Islam assures all the rights of women and preserves them very well. So all what we need is to follow the rules of our conviction and work in accordance with them. And then we wouldn’t need a feminist movement at all. Thats my belief.

                                         Latina Khadidja

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      Her website-
      https://abookworldweb.wordpress.com/

      That is her own way of FEMINISM.

      Again such a beautiful reply. I guess am fully getting to understand this WOMANISM and FEMINISM well.

      I Enjoy such topic/post about women.

      I guess I have answered you MINDSET question.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    15. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a poetry post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  8. Patrick- great piece, love that you have strong women in your life (Mother & sister) that inspire your view to honor women like this. My mother led a hard life but the greatest thing she said to me (one of many) was this: You will when you’re ready! She’s right- we all make life choices and get advice, but until we’ve decided on the inside to do something different- we won’t change, or react. But we will…when we’re ready. So know yourself enough to listen to that and your own instinct.

    Everything you say is true, for other young women… surround yourself with supporters and helpers, those who pray with you and those who will be there in an instant. Even in your darkest moments- know that a new day is coming and what you’re in right now is only for a bit. Keep going, you can do it.

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    1. Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that.

      Thanks for this words you said in the beginning of your comment:

      “””” Patrick- great piece, love that you have strong women in your life (Mother & sister) that inspire your view to honor women like this. “””””””

      Am happy you shared you own advice you mother gave to you when you were young.
      I love that advice (You will when you’re ready!)

      That is true. You will do all those things required as a mother when the person has come of age in to be a mother.

      As I went further in your comment, you answered my question about the advice to give young mother’s.

      I really enjoy the advice you gave to them.
      From my understanding I was able to summarized the advice in to 3 parts-

      1. Surround yourself with supporters and helpers,
      2. Surround with those who pray with you and those who will be there in an instant.

      3. Being focus – Even in your darkest moments- know that a new day is coming and what you’re in right now is only for a bit. Keep going, you can do it.

      Am happy I came across someone like you. You just inspired me right now. Am happy for that.

      Thanks for the awesome comment and contributions to PatrickStories.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  9. Women. . . and my wife in particular, is all you have said and more. My wife is the joy/love of our home. When she is away over-night, my two sons and I (or at least I) notice by conspicuous absence her love not filling our home and lives. Last night and today we watched Dr. Emerson and Sarah Eggerich’s “Love and Respect: The Love She Most Desires, The Respect He Desperately Needs.” This will increasingly defuse our conflict and increasingly increase our harmony.

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    1. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful comment on this post.

      Such an awesome way of describing your very own wife. Thanks. Again. Your comment are incredible and I enjoy reading every word down till the last line.

      I must say that you are probably one of the excellent bloggers on WordPress that write inspired and cool comment.

      I will love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      2. What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      Would love to know your views. Love to see your contributions on it.

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      You are welcome

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. My mom valued the higher education she was not able to have because she was a mom at a young age. She encouraged us children to excel at academics from which I benefit every day. My mom would read to me poems that conveyed wisdom and I have a love of Proverbs in the Bible today. Most of all I appreciate my mom and my dad for taking care of me (and my sister and brother) when times were very tough for them. They worked very hard to give us kids a better start than they had. God has blessed them with a pleasant retirement and they find joy in giving to others. And we will care for them when they need us.

      Advice for young mothers? Seek Jesus of the Bible. He loves you infinitely and will guide and defend you. He will give you wisdom, love and peace for your soul.

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    3. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful response and reply on the question been asked.
      Your beautiful comment and agreement to this post on my blog just made my morning.

      I found delight love in what you just said on my  post.

      Am touched by the description about parents especially you mum. That is a nice and beautiful way of commenting and describing her. Thanks again.

      At the end part you gave a touching advice to mothers about seeking JESUS. Through him mothers can get wisdom, love and peace for your soul.

      Thanks very much for all the time and energy you used in writing this.

      I still remain the simple blogger Patrick.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  10. Hello Patrick, Please find my answers for your question.
    1.My Opinion – It is wonderfully written and I could sense the Women’s
    emotions are beautifully portrayed

    1.My Contribution – Inspired from a Song in a Tamil Movie Rhythm
    Beauty of the River stream can be compared with Full bloomed girl – A girl will be Beautiful & charming nature in her teen and the same applies to a River stream in its peak season
    Roaring Water falls can compared with a Wife – Her love with husband can be Compared to a roaring waterfalls
    Sea can be compared with Mom – Would you be able to find the depth of Sea ?
    In a similar way, A mother love can’t be judged by any means as her affection is equivalent to a sea, as it never be estimated ,as her adoration is extremely special and ONLY her affection is Unconditional in the world and we can’t expect it from any one on the planet.

    2. My mother is a homemaker and her love and affection towards me is so special.If I give a responsibility to her,she will make sure, I don’t face any problems and issues and try to make my life easier, The special thing was, even if she doesn’t know about anything also, she will do it and make sure I will not have any issues .
    It is not something just happened one time, it happens all the time :).
    I can believe my mom BLINDLY and I really don’t have just one reason for Appreciating my MOM as I have more than 1000 reasons 🙂

    3. Its not so easy for me to answer this question and I would think it would be right to hear from Mothers/Grandmothers to offer advice to Young Mothers

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    1. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion and again for answering all the questions put after you.

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion, no matter you agree with me or not.Because your opinion,contributions and answers are always valuable to me.

      As I read you comment am touched by the poem you used in connection with mothers. I love that very much.

      I love this 2 parts in your comment where you said at the beginning and the end:

      1. My mother is a homemaker and her love and affection towards me is so special.

      2. I really don’t have just one reason for Appreciating my MOM as I have more than 1000 reasons 🙂

      Keep inspiring people with you comment. Am inspired today.

      HAPPY SUNDAY Mr Sath

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post. I appreciate your effort very much.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  11. Wow,women are strong beings ,thank you so much for honoring women,of all your writings, I love this the most so far,
    If I may quote some of your sentences in reflection to my mum as a woman

    -Women sing when they want to cry
    -They go without shoe so their children can have some
    – They love unconditionally
    -Women knows that hugs and kisses can heal a broken heart.
    My mother is such a strong woman who has gone through a lot in life as a wife, she never gave up on us despite of all the shit she went through,she had the option to run away but she never did. We watched her being abused almost everyday, ,we cried her tears while all she did was stay strong for us, every single bit of her life make me cry.

    This piece has just reminded me of the strongest woman I know .

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion about women.

      I didn’t know I was gonna make a poem to touched someone like you.
      I appreciate your time used in reading it. How much you related it to your mum. How much you created some part of the poem you love most.

      As I quote:

      “””” Women sing when they want to cry
      They go without shoe so their children can have some
      They love unconditionally
      Women knows that hugs and kisses can heal a broken heart. “”””””

      Thanks for such comment. I guess am inspired right now for someone like to comment and have a reflection of my poem and relating it to your strong mum.

      Thanks again Miss Dorzie for such a wonderful contribution on this post.

      I still remain PATRICK the simple blogger.

      You welcome dear friend.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  12. Tradition and a strong belief in the importance of family was taught by my mother. I am grateful for this inspiration as I see it continue with my children. Family gatherings always include games of some sort. When the weather is nice, we play outdoor games. And bad weather days are spent playing card games, dominoes, board games. Best part – everyone is involved: youngest to oldest.
    My grandmother always had a calm about her; even when you knew she wanted to scream or cry. She never let the world get her down. She believed and lived by the thought that we decide how are day will be. She always chose to be happy. 🙂

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    1. Thanks you very much.

      Thanks for putting you time to read it and also for taking time to type on the comment box based on your own contributions about the post/poem.

      Am grateful for that.

      Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful comment on this post.

      You lucky to have a mother who taught you alot about family and tradition. Making sure you learn the ethics/rules of the tradition and also the strong importance of family as pertaining what you said in your comment as I quote:

      “””‘”””” Tradition and a strong belief in the importance of family was taught by my mother. “””””””‘

      Am inspired by this part of the comment :

      *******************************
      Family gatherings always include games of some sort. When the weather is nice, we play outdoor games. And bad weather days are spent playing card games, dominoes, board games. Best part – everyone is involved: youngest to oldest.

      *******************************

      As I typed I just remembered my childhood memories of such family gathering. All indoor and outdoors game were played.

      Lastly the last part ended well with you. You mum deserve this one:

      “””” She always chose to be happy. 🙂 “”””’

      My mother too, the same thing.

      For my own contributions to that. MOTHER ARE GREAT

      Such an awesome way of commenting. Thanks Again for that.

      Thanks for that great comment. I appreciate that very much.

      You are such an interesting person to be with.

      I still remain  the simple blogger…..

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a poetry post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion, no matter you agree with me or not.Because your opinion is always valuable to me.

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a poetry post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. 1. I like the fact that a guy wrote it.
      2. My mom is an hardworking woman who has held the home front even when her husband wasn’t “forthcoming” and continues to be there for her family through thick and thin without complaints. A true African woman.
      3. To be the best in everything they do and to continue fighting the good fight

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    3. Fantastic and  amazing reply. Just short and straight forward.

      You are a phenomenal person with such incredible response.

      Am so glad that you had to comment on it my post.
      I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing sunday.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  13. Hello Patrick! This is a lovely poem. It is simple as far as literary devices, but accessible to everyone with its very clear message. It is reflective, awareness raising and thought provoking. It is, above all, a most beautiful homage to all women. As for the word feminism, I fully agree with you, it does not mean women’s supremacy over men. The word feminism has unluckily been perverted during these recent years. Feminism basically means the right of equal rights, opportunities and duties for women and men, and trans, and nothing more. Any person (women, men or trans) who believes in all these is a feminist to me. In this sense, you are a feminist, I am a feminist and many more people. I wish certain people stop perverting the real meaning of the word. BTW, thank you so much for the follow. I really appreciate this!

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    1. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful comment on my post.
      Your beautiful comments are well noted. The comment you did on this post show how you read it well and was able to do a lengthy comment on it.

      I just saw you comment now.
      Am kind of busy now.
      At a relax mood, I will reply you.

      You are welcome.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful comment on this post.

      Such an awesome way of commenting. Thanks Again for that.

      As always feminist fight for gender equality. For me personally am a supporter of feminist and feminism.

      Thanks for that great comment. I appreciate that very much.

      You are welcome Ms.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    3. Good day Ms. Thanks for the comment on the poem. Am really please to say I enjoyed every part you said from the beginning of the comment. These words touched my heart. Give me the heart to move on.

      You are welcome Ms.

      Thanks for showing interest in my post/poem. Am happy you made some point clear regarding FEMINISM and FEMINIST.

      Some men get it wrong.

      “”””’ It does not mean women’s supremacy over men.””””‘

      Some times I keep telling my men counterpart about it, that FEMINISM is all about the right of equal rights, opportunities and duties for women and men.

      As i went further in your comment you keep writing more about FEMINIST and FEMINISM.

      You said something about feminist.

      For me I like girls who are feminist and am always interested in them when they say “”” I am a feminist “””

      I feel blessed by your writing right now. I found delight love and joy in what you just wrote about women. Though am a man but a women gave birth to me.  So I respect then a lot when they air out how they are been accepted as nothing in the society.

      I will love my own part of the contribution here and the feminist I have come across.
      This is the one that touched me.

      We did a long chat. And her response was WOW.

      Here is the little summary:

      I asked a Muslim girl who is my friend on Facebook, an Algerian  girl. She is a blogger also.  After a long chat we discussed some recent issues about women in the Society and likewise chinanmanda adichie a popular feminist in USA(the writer of purple hibiscus)

      So I throw up a question to her

      Question- Can you be a Feminist?

      Her answer(reply)
      One thing you should know about feminism is that there are many kinds of feminisms. Not all movements have the same goals and views. I can be a feminist. I might agree with some feminists like Adichie because they speak of troubles women go through in certain places and it makes sense. What I don’t agree with, though, is being a fanatical feminist, those who are fighting just for the sake of fighting. There needs to be a cause and as a Muslim woman, I fully believe that my religion has covered all what a woman needs to have. Islam assures all the rights of women and preserves them very well. So all what we need is to follow the rules of our conviction and work in accordance with them. And then we wouldn’t need a feminist movement at all. Thats my belief.

                                         Latina Khadidja

      Facebook-Latina Khadidja

      Her website-
      https://abookworldweb.wordpress.com/

      Again such a beautiful writing.

      I Enjoy such a comment about feminists. Keep the good response and comment Ms

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      NOTE: “”” Ms “””” was attached here to your name because I believe you are a feminist and you run a feminist blog and also the way the popular FEMINIST Adichie Chimamanda Ngozi says in her book:

      According to a popular literature book “””. Dear ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestions “””

      Here she says:

      “”””””‘ Mrs’ is a title I dislike because Nigerian society gives it too much value. I have observed too many cases of men and women who proudly speak of the title of Mrs as though those who
      are not Mrs have somehow failed at something. Mrs can be a choice, but to infuse it with as
      much value as our culture does is disturbing. The value we give to Mrs means that marriage
      changes the social status of a woman but not that of a man. (Is that perhaps why many women
      complain of married men still ‘acting’ as though they were single? Perhaps if our society asked
      married men to change their names and take on a new title, different from Mr, their behaviour
      might change as well? Ha!) But more seriously, if you, a twenty-eight-year-old master’s degree
      holder, go overnight frodo Ijeawele Eze to Mrs Ijeawele Udegbunam, surely it requires not just
      the mental energy of changing passports and licences but also a psychic change, a new
      ‘becoming’? This new ‘becoming’ would not matter so much if men, too, had to undergo it.
      I prefer Ms because it is similar to Mr. A man is Mr whether married or not, a woman is Ms
      whether married or not.

      “”””””””

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a poetry post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a poetry post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. I wouldn’t have something to add on your poem because for me it was just perfect. It is really a good piece that you have right here. From seeing my mother give birth to my younger brother and to see from where we all come, made me understand how strong woman really are. I believe that ALL men should respect woman. It is important for a man to realize the power and strength of a woman. To all the young mothers, it is not about being perfect but never stop doing your best for your child. All they need is LOVE, that is the most important thing to know their mother love them and would do anything for them. And to all mothers, NEVER STOP PRAYING FOR YOUR KIDS. If I am who I am today, it is because my mom never stopped praying for me, even during hard time. Kids are gift from God, always remember that your kids are blessings even if something you might think otherwise. ❤

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    3. Thanks for responding and commenting on my post/poem. I appreciate that very much.

      From the beginning of your comment, I love this part where you said:

      “””” I wouldn’t have something to add on your poem because for me it was just perfect. It is really a good piece that you have right here. “”””

      Thanks for that compliment. Am happy for that. You just made half day awesome.

      Am so happy for the advice you just gave to young mothers. Am able to summarized it in to 2 points:
      1. Love
      2. Prayer

      1. Love – To all the young mothers, it is not about being perfect but never stop doing your best for your child. All they need is LOVE, that is the most important thing to know their mother love them and would do anything for them.

      2. Prayer– And to all mothers, NEVER STOP PRAYING FOR YOUR KIDS. If I am who I am today, it is because my mom never stopped praying for me, even during hard time.

      Thanks for once more for the comment.
      I appreciate that very much.
      It shows your concern for such post/poem

      I still remain  the simple blogger PATRICK.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  14. Excellent write up, 💯 true. Mothers are just extra extra wonderful. A mother could go lengths and depths just to see her family smile. She could endure a pain which is so sever and still keep a smiling face…. Sometimes I try to imagine what material or stuff they are actually made of……. My mum was just the best. And whenever I tell her “mummy I can’t be like you ohh, I can’t pass through all this ohh ” she would just smile and say to me “wait till you become a mum and you would do even more than I did”.
    Mothers are just the best thing that happened to this world. Imagine life without mothers?.
    My advice to young mothers, though am not yet a mum but through experience, I would say young mothers should learn to be patient. Patience is key to having a beautiful home and training your children in the right path using the right manual lol ☺. ……excellent writeup @Patrickstories bravo👍.

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    1. Thanks for responding and replying back to me. I appreciate that very much.

      Thanks for once more for the comment.
      I appreciate that very much.
      It shows your concern for such post.

      Again THANK YOU VERY MUCH.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

    2. Thank you! I appreciate your thoughtful response.

      Such an awesome way of commenting on someone post. Thanks.Again

      Am happy you were able to say a view and able to answer the question put before you in the poem/post.

      You comments are well noted .

      As I read patiently on your comment on this post/poem.I was able to note 2 solid morals from your comments.

      1. Patience– She could endure a pain which is so sever and still keep a smiling face. Sometimes I try to imagine what material or stuff they are actually made of… My mum was just the best. And whenever I tell her “mummy I can’t be like you ohh, I can’t pass through all this ohh ” she would just smile and say to me “wait till you become a mum and you would do even more than I did”.

      2. Passionate — Mothers are just extra extra wonderful. A mother could go lengths and depths just to see her family smile.

      As I read further, this advice to young mother made my morning. I just smiled when I saw this beautiful and noted advice to young mothers.

      “”” young mothers should learn to be patient. Patience is key to having a beautiful home and training your children in the right path using the right manual “””’

      Patience is just the best key in becoming a mother and in child training.

      Thanks for putting up your time in answering these questions. Its my pleasure to get to know you more.

      Once again thanks Miss Barb’sblog

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  15. Hello Patric, I am honoured to have been one of the people who actually read your poem, ‘IN HONOUR OF A WOMAN’, and i have to say, reading each and every line made made me very emotional. I Found myself connecting with your words, i have lost my grandmother four years ago,she was the best thing that has ever happened to me, but i had to get up on my feet and become strong. Ive learned to appreciate the little things i have in life.

    Your writng is just perfect,,,and i love how you connect to the reality of things.Again, You reminded me of my mother and that mothers are just the best gift there is in life,
    Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts. Continue with your good work…

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment on my post.

      Am very please and happy for such a comment on my poem. This is where I enjoyed most in the beginning-

      “””” Hello Patric, I am honoured to have been one of the people who actually read your poem, ‘IN HONOUR OF A WOMAN’, and i have to say, reading each and every line made made me very emotional. “”””””

      Is my role to write a poem that will move someone emotional and also think critically about the poem.

      Am really sorry you lost your grandma. From what you saying your grandma was one of your favourite person that you lost.

      Thanks for the encouragement you gave to me towards the ending of your comment and I really appreciate that so much.

      “””” Your writing is just perfect,,,and i love how you connect to the reality of things. Thank you for sharing your beautiful thoughts. Continue with your good work… “””””

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion/contributions.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      2.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  16. This is so honest and beautiful! I think I’m fortunate that the strong woman in my life is my mom, and she’s consistently shown me that a bit of hard work can change someone else’s life completely. I don’t have enough experience to give any great advice to young mothers, but I would say to always remember how strong you are.

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    1. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion.

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion. Because your opinion is always valuable to me.

      Am happy you said your mother was a strong woman. Been strong covers alot of this.
      Your advice for young mothers says strong woman. I love that.

      Thanks for your comment.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  17. Here is my take on this
    Sorry it is quite lengthy. 😊

    1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?
    I love the simplicity of it all. Every line is real. Every line is truthful. Every line describes all the strong women out there.

    We all have good and bad days. At times, when we are down it is often good to be reminded about our inner strength so we could plummet through all the hurdles that come along our way.
    
2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

    Too many too mention. But here is a brief summary of how amazing she is.

    I’ve seen/assisted/attended to women during their birthing process and mind you it’s not easy. So I thank her for giving me life and showering me all the love that her heart could offer. The endless sacrifices and efforts she has put into me made me who I am today. I am forever grateful.
    
3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

    My advice to young mothers out there is simple. Love your children with all your heart. Irregardless of age, a mother’s love is still the same. This love could either make or break your child.

    Secondly, hold your head high. You are beautiful and most importantly you are strong. No one said being a young mother is easy but remember at the end of a long and hard day, you still have the most beautiful thing life has to offer and that is you child.

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    1. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      I really appreciate and respect your opinion,because your opinion is always valuable to me.

      Am enlightened by this comments this Tuesday morning.

      Am happy and amazed by your contribution on the poem. Thanks for the part where you said:

      “”””” I love the simplicity of it all. Every line is real. Every line is truthful. Every line describes all the strong women out there. “”””

      As I went further in to reading, I just smiled and I saw something that moved me right now. Am happy for this point/part where you gave a marvellous advice to young mothers out there.

      As I quote from you:
      “”” My advice to young mothers out there is simple. Love your children with all your heart. Irregardless of age, a mother’s love is still the same. This love could either make or break your child. “””””

      Thank you so much for stopping by and for reading my post. Am please by your comment.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. I am actually reading your other blog post as well. They were all a good read. I’d like to mention that all the comments posted from you and your readers contributed to building your blog event better.

      Thank you for appreciating my opinion. I guess I’ve met a lot of people of different walks of life. My opinion stems from their thoughts as well. So I’d like to give due credit to them as well.

      I actually enjoyed giving advice to all the young mother’s out there.

      I’ve met a lot of young mothers during my internship and everyone is different. But one mother broke my heart when she refused to look/ hold her child. She probably has her own unspoken reasons but … my only wish is that for all children to be loved irregardless of circumstance. I hope others could share the same sentiments as well.

      Have a good Tuesday 😊

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    3. Thanks for commenting on my blog. I appreciate that very much.

      Am happy you went through the comment from other bloggers.

      Am happy you gave a back up story on your experience with a young mother during internship ( I’ve met a lot of young mothers during my internship and everyone is different. But one mother broke my heart when she refused to look/ hold her child. She probably has her own unspoken reasons )

      I guess that example is good also. It shows you have such experience with mothers in during your internship.

      After all things, you just gave an advice by saying:

      “”””” my only wish is that for all children to be loved irregardless of circumstance. I hope others could share the same sentiments as well. “”””

      One love to all children irregardless of the circumstances/situation they found themself.

      Thanks again for such advice to young mothers.
      You most welcome .

      I still remain  the simple blogger.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  18. What a thoughtful and appreciative post to your mom and sister!! I hope they were touched by your words.
    I think moms make up a special kind of people. Didn’t understand till I had children to love, raise, and protect.
    In the Korean culture, it says that moms are resilient and tough (in translation it’s more than tough). Moms can rise up to challenges and face it, something to that degree. I think this can look different in moms who deal with different circumstances.
    Thanks for the shot out to recognize all that women do!!

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    1. Thanks for the comment. I appreciate your time used in commenting on this post/poem.

      Thanks for this part of the comment where you did a cool comment on my works as I quote:

      “”””” What a thoughtful and appreciative post to your mom and sister!! I hope they were touched by your words. “””””

      As I went further in to your comment. I totally agree and also was touched by this part:

      “””””” I think moms make up a special kind of people. Didn’t understand till I had children to love, raise, and protect. “”””””

      Children need love and protection. That is the highest parents can give to them.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      2. What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      I will love to see you thoughtful reply and answer on the question put before you.

      Again thanks for the beautiful comment on my blog/post.

      Keep the vibes on.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a poetry post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      2.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that. That is always my intention to write a poetry post that gives someone a creative thinking.

      I will check out yours very soon.

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Hi

      Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest opinion

      Love to ask you a simple question:

      1. What’s your opinion and contributions on this post/poem?

      2. What are the things your mother have done that are worthy of appreciation?

      3.What are your advice to young mothers in the outside world?

      I will be waiting to see a nice and good response on the question put after you.

      Again, thanks for the comment.

      Cheers,

      PATRICK

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

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