RECEPTACLE

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RECEPTACLE
I slept and slept deep
In my reduced state of consciousness,
I saw a sharp, hooked claw like a fork.
This fork-like object took me up
And placed me on a shoulder
The shoulder of a month old baby girl
The baby girl had whole planets
Tied up with a string round her neck
It looked like African beads on her neck
I am the adult
But this baby girl spoke in riddles
The planets on her neck were hatching
I sometimes forget what she gives birth to
Her children were so many in 1939
And even in 1945
Even when her planets hatches
And her hatchings were premature
Or grown birds
At times her good children see
Mother’s bosom as a place for debris
Despite all, a beast of burden
Is one of her beautiful names
Written by:

MORDI IFEANYI APEX
Writer/Educator/Tutor
University of Benin
Department of English

STRUCTURAL REVIEW
This poem is enwritten to all women, weak and strong. The main idea of the poem is strength and respect attributed to womanhood.
The poem is set in the poet’s mind “RECEPTACLE” as the poem’s title refers to woman’s natural mysterious capacity to adapt to inconceivable challenges.
As Line 12 reads:

The planets on her neck were hatching
The poet extends the use of zoomorphism to expatiate on the woman’s nature to accept her situation even as it is already part of her as the poet says
“The planets on her neck were hatching”.
The planets here also signifies :

“”” the 9months during her pregnancy. Each months have something to tell about her. “””””
Starting from the beginning of the poem
Line 1-4 says:
I slept and slept deep
In my reduced state of consciousness,
I saw a sharp, hooked claw like a fork.
This fork-like object took me up

And placed me on a shoulder
The poet try to tell us about the caring nature of a mother. The fork-like object signifies the hand of a woman. Her hand signifies her caring nature for the baby which at this state,the baby experience a deep sleep as the poet says in line 1-2:
I slept and slept deep
In my reduced state of consciousness,
The woman according to the poet is ready to accept whatsever her planets hatches/gives birth to as the poem alludes/signifies the woman as Mother Earth.
Line 13-15:
I sometimes forget what she gives birth to
Her children were so many in 1939
And even in 1945
The use of allusion and indirect personification is a way of showing respect to the womanhood. 1939 to 1945(World War II) events in history which cost the earth at that time a lot of time regain its value. The woman here is referred to as mothers earth who still stands despite all burden, depression, and what the 1939-1945 which caused the death of some 50 million people, most of whom were civilian.
Here the children the mother earth gave birth within that 1939 to 1945(World War II) were;
1. Mortality
2. Hunger-
3.Dispossession
4.Persecution
5. Migration.
The poet affirms that pregnancy and child birth does not only make the woman a beast of burden,but she is a beast(decorated name ) of kinds of burden as
line 21-22 says:
Despite all, a beast of burden
Is one of her beautiful names
The poet also submits that this mark of respect is given to a newly born baby girl as
lines 4-8 reads:
This forklike object took me up
And placed me on a shoulder
The shoulder of a month old baby girl
The baby girl had whole planets
Tied up with a string round her neck
The poet generally aspire to understand more about the strength of a woman. Here also when it comes to true strength and the ability to endure pain for 9months women blow men away especially how she adapts when all hope is lost as
line 13,19 and 20 reads:
I sometimes forget what she gives birth to
At times her good children see
Mother’s bosom as shoulder for debris
Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:
1. What are you contribution,opinion and views about the poem?

2. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

3. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

4. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?
Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!
Typed and Edited by:
Kogwuonye Patrick Onyeka
Writer/Blogger/Educator/Tutor
University of Benin
Credited to:
pregnant women in the world

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89 thoughts on “RECEPTACLE”

  1. Great analysis of the poem! The poem reflects what women endure during pregnancy/birth, and the many obstacles faced. In society, I find that many pregnant women lack antenatal care in hospitals. Many don’t have the means to get the proper prenatal vitamins and checkups needed, especially those in the lower class bracket.

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    1. Thanks for the comment. Am happy you too your time to answer such. I really appreciate that very much.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      2. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      3. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss Celinehuynh55

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. What are you contribution,opinion and views about the poem?

      2. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      3. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss Honey

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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      1. 1. It’s nice and straight about a true cause

        2. Yes most of them have medical access

        3. Idk..but i can guess that she’d feel too blessed. Or happy to have a child of own. She is a life giver.

        4. –
        5. –
        6 .-

        I am still a kid lol. 😅 Hehe

        You are welcome!

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        1. Thanks for taking your time to reply me.

          Thanks again for answering the questions put after you. I personally appreciate that very much.

          This was something very different and yet perfectly related to.

          You are welcome Mrs/Miss Honey

          #PATRICKSTORIES
          Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  2. Reading about the meaning of the poem enlightened the role of a mother and how they relate to Mother Earth.
    During pregnancy, it was amazing how feeling life grow in me shifted my perspective of responsibility. The bond expanded my thoughts beyond myself and placed more focus on the world around me, the environment my child was to come live in. Raising the child, brought more focus on the simplicity of life and how I should be grateful for it. ‘At times her good children see Mother’s bosom as shoulder for debris.’ This line describes the unconditional love and endless support a mother offers. Always there to clean the dust when the winds of life blow.

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    1. Thanks for this wonderful comment on this post.

      Am touched by this comment and contribution. This blew my mind away. Thank you for taking the time to share these insightful words.

      These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it ( Reading about the meaning of the poem enlightened the role of a mother and how they relate to Mother Earth) and how you ended the write up (‘At times her good children see Mother’s bosom as shoulder for debris.’ This line describes the unconditional love and endless support a mother offers. Always there to clean the dust when the winds of life blow.)

      Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was amazed . Each word you used are true and reflective of my personal encounter with people especially mothers.

      This comment produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated.

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss Astrid’s Word’s

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  3. I really enjoyed your interpretation of the poem. It put some things into perspective for me. As for my thoughts –
    – medical needs for pregnant women. For the most part, I would say yes women’s needs are met. However there is getting to be a bigger gap between those who can afford insurance/ medical care and those that cannot.
    – What did I feel while I was pregnant… I believe I went through just about every emotion ranging from fear of what kind of mother I was going to be to the purely wonderful feeling of the child growing within you. You can feel everything – it amazed me that I could feel when my baby had the hiccups!
    – Yes, my thoughts and perceptions changed. I no longer thought about me and my needs. My baby’s needs became the priority. I looked at the world differently as well. I wanted to be able to show my child that even in the darkness, there is light and beauty. Being a mother is the best experience I have had. I grew along with my children and I got to experience childhood again by playing all my childhood games with them. Laughing for no real reason and learning again to just have some fun. Motherhood is a great experience!

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your comment on my post.

      Am very please and happy for such a comment on my poem. This is where I enjoyed most in the beginning (
      I really enjoyed your interpretation of the poem. It put some things into perspective for me. As for my thoughts –)

      Is my role to write a poem that will move someone emotional and also think critically about the poem.

      Thanks for the encouragement you gave to me towards the ending of your comment as I quote “”””””” I grew along with my children and I got to experience childhood again by playing all my childhood games with them. Laughing for no real reason and learning again to just have some fun. Motherhood is a great experience! “”””””””
      and I Patrick Stories really appreciate that so much.

      I read through your response to the question put after you. And I must say, it really cool as you said and how your answered it with your own experience.

      As I read through I was able to deduce some notable point which I gained personally from your comment and response.

      Thank you so much for adding a little inspired word to me this AFTERNOON

      HAPPY TUESDAY AFTERNOON Mrs/Mr/Miss Kstites

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr Namaste

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  4. 1. Luckily, I live in a country that has a well regulated medical care so yes, this is also the case for antenatal care.

    2. I am not a father so I wouldn’t know how to answer this question from a father’s perspective, but I can imagine that the whole perspective changes when you become one, all of a sudden, there is someone else who is more important to you besides yourself.

    3. Yes, I think I answered that one in the previous question. The perception about Life changes drastically.

    5. Pregnancy is a very individual experience for every woman. This poem could reflect some emotional journeys but certainly not all.

    Namaste
    Fabulous Blogger

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    1. Thank for the reply also. Thanks for taking your time to reply me and for answering the questions put before you.

      I just skimmed through your comment and the word you used are wow.

      Thanks for that.
      I appreciate that very much.

      You are welcome Mr Namaste
      Fabulous Blogger

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  5. Your interpretation of the poem is superb. It’s funny, when it mention the fork all I thought about was food. I am not a mom so I really don’t know how to answer most of your questions. I can say the poem does speak profoundly of women while pregnant and how they take care of their child.

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    1. Thank you so much for reading my post and for leaving such an honest comment.

      Am glad you like it very well. Am just a simple blogger trying to reach out to women in generally.

      The questions does not mean you have to be a woman. Just say your own view about it.

      I guess you can answer this two questions based on your own sight and understanding.

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      I will love to see your awesome reply.

      Thanks for your comment.

      You are welcome Mrs Fabulous.

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  6. Wonderful poem and interpretation. In today’s society women faces barrier in all situation. Starting from her childhood to old age… she passes all the hurdles with courage and attitude.
    I am not mom so i really don’t know to answer your questions but I’ll try to few
    1. Yes, pregnant women get access to those antenatal care in hospitals depending on their stands, yet many lacks with nutrition, vitamins.
    5. In that situation, my child and it’s need will be in the priority rather than anything

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    1. I just skimmed through your comment and the comment was wow. And I must say, it really cool. Thanks for that insightful word-Wonderful poem and interpretation.

      That was really mindful to say.

      Women are very important just as men in society. They should be allowed to be whatever they want to be to contribute to a better world.

      Am happy you laid your own contributions and your answers to some of the questions put before you.

      Thanks for commenting. I appreciate your views on this post.

      Please keep the words coming Miss Leena Muthamma

      Look forward to seeing more inspired comment from you.

      Thank you so much for adding a little inspired word to me this morning.

      HAPPY WEDNESDAY morning

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. What are you contribution,opinion and views about the poem?

      2. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      3. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr/Mrs/Miss

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  7. Hello Again,

    This Piece here is layered with the beautiful burdens of Womanhood/Motherhood! You did a Fantastic job breaking down the Verses.

    This Piece requires several bites on the feast of food it offers.

    As a woman and mother, I can see so many sides, corners, edges and lines to it that it would take all day and then some for me to offer my opinions at length. So I will settle for the short answer.

    Mothethood comes with expectations and judgements that are not placed on the fathers. Women are expected to want the baby upon finding out about the pregnancy. This is not the case for so many reasons. If you fall into this category, you will be judged no matter the circumstances. New mothers are expected to immediately love-on their newborns and know how to be a mother to their child. Again, not always the case.

    Whether the father stays or goes, ALL eyes are on the mother! She’s just given birth to the Future and if her Present aint positive, then her Contribution to the World will be sorely lacking.

    Sadly, this is Our Present! We have agendas and laws right now that further degrade, devalue, disrespect and dissect the well being and overall human experience of women and babies!

    Definitions for Domestic/Sexual Violence have been changed to achieve this. The movement to kill newborns demonstrates this!

    This male-dominated world truly and uttey Hate women for what we represent and hate the children for representatives! Women are Life bringers….bringers of hope….bringers of love…bringers of greatness!

    If your agenda is about death, then you are not gonna have any love for women or children! More children means more chances for the right soul to be born who will challenge the mess that we call oppression. To correct this, laws and agendas are put in place for abusers to continue abusing. Women are made to be the bad guys and then internal that. They end up not loving themselves…giving themselves to every smile….devaluing their worth. Sex is just a past time now. If mommy has no value, how can baby?

    Hope I touched on all the questions asked.

    It’s sad but true!

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    1. Sorry for the typos but I hope you get what I was saying here.

      Women are hated for what they stand for…their purpose and babies are hated because they themselves represent it. That’s why there’s even less protection and representation for us.

      Take care!

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      1. Am still that simple blogger.

        Nobody is above mistake. I will understand your comment and your writings.

        Just my kind of person. This is my own way. I try to read what motivate me. If am touched I make sure I reply back when i have the time.

        I will get back to you. Thanks again

        You are welcome to

        #PATRICKSTORIES
        Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    2. Patrick Stories is really sorry for the late reply/response to the comment. My schedule was tight this period.

      Please try and understand my plights. Thanks for understanding me.

      Am so please by that wonderful compliment in the beginning of your comment where you said as I quote:

      “””””””””” This Piece here is layered with the beautiful burdens of Womanhood/Motherhood! You did a Fantastic job breaking down the Verses. This Piece requires several bites on the feast of food it offers.

      “”””””””””

      This is how I do my things, I make sure all my poems have meaning so the mind of viewers or readers will not be only imagination but it look more real and superior to their thinking.

      In respect to your plight how women are treated as I quote from you:

      “””””””””” Mothethood comes with expectations and judgements that are not placed on the fathers. Women are expected to want the baby upon finding out about the pregnancy. This is not the case for so many reasons. If you fall into this category, you will be judged no matter the circumstances. New mothers are expected to immediately love-on their newborns and know how to be a mother to their child. Again, not always the case.
      Whether the father stays or goes, ALL eyes are on the mother! She’s just given birth to the Future and if her Present aint positive, then her Contribution to the World will be sorely lacking.

      “”””””””””

      After much reading and understanding of it. I came up with the division of what you said in to 2(two) quotation starting from the first two paragraph comment in the beginning.

      1. First. Quotation

      Mothethood comes with expectations and judgements that are not placed on the fathers. Women are expected to want the baby upon finding out about the pregnancy. This is not the case for so many reasons. If you fall into this category, you will be judged no matter the circumstances. New mothers are expected to immediately love-on their newborns and know how to be a mother to their child. Again, not always the case.

      2. Second Quotation

      1 )Whether the father stays or goes, ALL eyes are on the mother! She’s just given birth to the Future and if her Present aint positive, then her Contribution to the World will be sorely lacking.
      2) This male-dominated world truly and uttey Hate women for what we represent and hate the children for representatives!

      Let me start off with my own back up about the quotations:-

      1. First. Quotation

      Mothethood comes with expectations and judgements that are not placed on the fathers. Women are expected to want the baby upon finding out about the pregnancy. This is not the case for so many reasons. If you fall into this category, you will be judged no matter the circumstances. New mothers are expected to immediately love-on their newborns and know how to be a mother to their child. Again, not always the case.

      —-Personal responses/views to Quotation 1 ——-

      Views—

      From your comment above ,the first quotation is based on GENDER ROLES.

      I will give a detailed view on it personally with enough back up.

      For me personally, Patrick Stories — I strongly believe in equal rights and opportunity for all, regardless of gender (or skin colour, ethnicity etc). I believe everyone should be respected as a unique individual and not judged on the basis of being a woman or man, black or white etc.

      My point is that we are all people and not defined by preconceived notions of delegated roles assigned by gender( especially up bringing of a child). There are so many successful women who have achieved things that I can only dream of, and it matters not to me if she is married, single, divorced, young, old or strong and loud or soft and gentle. Their accomplishments added to our world.

      We have various women in our world today who have accomplish much in term of education, science and technology. Whether married, single, divorce, old and young. They all add benefit to the society at large. No one should be neglected base on gender.

      The idea of gender role( cooking, domestic,child bringing and chores are meant for women) I don’t agree with it personally.

      1. First back up-

      Here is a little draft from our renowned feminist.

      According to a popular literature book “””. Dear ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestions “””

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

      Second Suggestion

      Do it together. Remember in primary school we learned that a verb was a ‘doing’ word? Well,
      a father is as much a verb as a mother. Chudi should do everything that biology allows – which

      is everything but breastfeeding. Sometimes mothers, so conditioned to be all and do all, are complicit in diminishing the role of fathers. You might think that Chudi will not bathe her
      exactly as you’d like, that he might not wipe her bum as perfectly as you do. But so what? What

      is the worst that can happen? She won’t die at the hands of her father. Seriously. He loves her.
      It’s good for her to be cared for by her father. So look away, arrest your perfectionism, still
      your socially conditioned sense of duty. Share child care equally. ‘Equally’ of course depends

      on you both, and you will have to work it out, paying equal attention to each person’s needs. It
      does not have to mean a literal fifty-fifty or a day-by-day score-keeping but you’ll know when
      the child-care work is equally shared. You’ll know by your lack of resentment. Because when
      there is true equality, resentment does not exist.

      2. Second back up-

      Here is a little draft from our renowned feminist.

      According to a popular literature book “””. Dear ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestions “””

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

      Third Suggestion

      Teach her that the idea of ‘gender roles’ is absolute nonsense. Do not ever tell her that she should or should not do something because she is a girl.

      ‘Because you are a girl’ is never a reason for anything ever “””””””

      3. Third back up-

      Here is a another quote from our own feminist.

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book: We should all be feminist

      ——– The knowledge of cooking does not come pre-installed in a vagina. Cooking is learned.
      Cooking – domestic work in general – is a life skill that both men and women should ideally have. It is also a skill that can elude both men and women. We also need to question the idea of marriage as a prize to women, because that is the basis
      of these absurd debates. If we stop conditioning women to see marriage as a prize, then we would have fewer debates about a wife needing to cook in order to earn that prize.

      It is interesting to me how early the world starts to invent gender roles. ———

      4. Fourth backup-

      Another excerpt/draft from her book also about gender role.

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book: Dear ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestions

      Third suggestion:
      ——Gender roles are so deeply conditioned in us that we will often follow them even when they chafe against our true desires, our needs, our happiness. They are very difficult to unlearn, and so it is important to try to make sure that Chizalum rejects them from the beginning. Instead of letting her internalize the idea of gender roles, teach her self-reliance. Tell her that it is
      important to be able to do for herself and fend for herself. Teach her to try to fix physical things
      when they break. We are quick to assume girls can’t do many things. Let her try. She might not
      fully succeed, but let her try. ————-

      Another idea of gender roles is that saying that COOKING are meant for women.

      No No No No No……….that is a wrong perception of people about women in the society.

      COOKING are not meant for women. For me personally I disagree with that perception from people.

      Another aspect of gender roles is that girls are condition to be weak and are left with domestics chores in the house. It’s high time we shared it equally. Boys and girls can do domestics chores at home.

      5. Fifth back up-

      Another back up based on cooking from FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi

      According to a popular literature book– We should all be feminist
      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:
      “””””””””” I know a woman who hates domestic work, but she pretends that she likes it, because
      she has been taught that to be “good wife material,” she has to be—to use that Nigerian word—homely. And then she got married. And her husband’s family began to complain that she had changed. Actually, she had not changed. She just got tired of pretending to
      be what she was not. The problem with gender is that it prescribes how we should be rather than recognizing how we are. Imagine how much happier we would be, how much freer to be our true individual selves, if we didn’t have the weight of gender expectations. Boys and girls are undeniably different biologically, but socialization exaggerates the differences. And then starts a self-fulfiling process. Take cooking, for example. Today, women in general are more likely to do housework than men— cooking and cleaning.
      But why is that? Is it because women are born with a cooking gene or because over
      years they have been socialized to see cooking as their role? I was going to say that perhaps women are born with a cooking gene until I remembered that the majority of famous cooks in the world—who are given the fancy title of “chef”—are men
      But what matters even more is our attitude, our mind-set.
      What if, in raising children, we focus on ability instead of gender? What if we focus on
      interest instead of gender?
      I know a family who has a son and a daughter, a year apart in age, both brilliant at
      school. When the boy is hungry, the parents say to the girl, Go and cook Indomie
      noodles for your brother. The girl doesn’t like to cook Indomie, but she is a girl and she has to. What if the parents, from the beginning, taught both children to cook Indomie?
      Cooking, by the way, is a useful and practical life skill for a boy to have—I’ve never
      thought it made much sense to leave such a crucial thing—the ability to nourish oneself
      —in the hands of others. “”””””””””””””

      This is about the gender equality feminist preach and agitate for.

      As for me child up bringing, cooking,domestic chores- cleaning sweeping,mopping are supposed to be shared equally.
      Cooking was never meant for women. Anybody can cook whether male or female.
      As for me I have been given the orientation about Gender equality right from the onset.

      6. Sixth backup-

      Still in reference to the motherhood and child bringing (specifically girls upbringing)

      The same question you think about the training of a child( girl child) is being answered here and here is the link to that for further convincing.

      https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.chatelaine.com/living/books/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie/amp/

      Question:

      Your first suggestion for raising girls(child) is to teach them to “be a full person”  —  that work and motherhood are not mutually exclusive. What do you mean by that?

      Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie answers:

      The way that we socialize girls — and I think this is true for almost every culture in the world — is that we teach them that because you’re the woman or the girl, you’re the person who has to sacrifice, you’re the person who has to compromise. I’ve seen so many women who have reduced themselves, or allowed themselves to be reduced, by this idea of self-sacrifice. Women are taught that the way to love is by giving up themselves. Men are not taught that.

      I find that motherhood [further] complicates things, and there’s a lot of guilt involved. I think women feel, “I shouldn’t really think of myself, or think of being other things apart from being a mother.” I’ve often seen that kind of sadness, especially in older women — and it makes me very sad, because I think about all the things they could have been, all the things they could have done. And they could have done all of those things and still have been wonderful mothers.

      2. Second Quotation
      1) Whether the father stays or goes, ALL eyes are on the mother! She’s just given birth to the Future and if her Present aint positive, then her Contribution to the World will be sorely lacking
      2) This male-dominated world truly and uttey Hate women for what we represent and hate the children for representatives!

      I understand you plights when you type this —-
      1) Whether the father stays or goes, ALL eyes are on the mother! She’s just given birth to the Future and if her Present aint positive, then her Contribution to the World will be sorely lacking.
      2) This male-dominated world truly and uttey Hate women for what we represent and hate the children for representatives!

      After much analysis on the (2) second quotation. I personally have to say it a–patriarchal system.
      I grew up in a patriarchal society where the male dominance is much in all area of life.

      For me personally I still grow up in a patriarchal society(male dominance) where all decision where made by male both in marriages, relationships and jobs.

      I got tired on how women where treated I felt the pain in me. So I started advocating for gender right and women right through my writings.

      The society again has made male patriarchy’s so important that women are not given any position. Again also in terms of power and authority, the society has made men as the point to handle such. Even in the school setting, government establishment and private firm. Women are seen as less and weak to accept such position.

      I have to back up that statement which you quote above:

      “””” Whether the father stays or goes, ALL eyes are on the mother! She’s just given birth to the Future and if her Present aint positive, then her Contribution to the World will be sorely lacking “””””

      Am using two quotation from FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi as backup to that your statement.

      1. First back up

      QUOTATION from FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi.

      According to a popular literature book “””. Dear ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestions “””

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

      “””””””” But here is a sad truth: our world is full of men and women who do not like powerful women. We have been so conditioned to think of power as male that a powerful woman is an
      aberration. And so she is policed. We ask of powerful women – is she humble? Does she smile? Is she grateful enough? Does she have a domestic side? Questions we do not ask of
      powerful men, which shows that our discomfort is not with power itself, but with women. We judge powerful women more harshly than we judge powerful men “””””””””

      Because of the ideal of power, authority and patriarchy’s, this again gave rise to different opinion to make women agitating for gender equality thereby forming the word FEMINISM and FEMINIST.

      2. Second back up.

      QUOTATION from FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi

      According to a popular literature book “”” we should all be feminist “””

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

      “”””” Men and women are different. We have different hormones and different sexual organs and different biological abilities—women can have babies, men cannot. Men have more testosterone and are, in general, physically stronger than women. There are slightly more women than men in the world—52 percent of the world’s population is female— but most of the positions of power and prestige are occupied by men. The late Kenyan
      Nobel peace laureate Wangari Maathai put it simply and well when she said, the higher
      you go, the fewer women there are. “”””””

      3. Third back up

      This patriarchy system(male dominance) has made women/girls to be submissive in all aspect making them weak.

      This submission/submissiveness which me termed oppression, subjugation and subjection has made women become less in the society.
      Society has set a lot of duties for men and women alike and it’s even painful to see that in a children’s textbook, the duties of a wife are “to cook for the family, to bring up the children and clean the house.” It’s a huge shame.
      We need to wake up and stop this nonsense.
      For me personally, I kick against the fact that women are weak and less important in the society. We are equal. No body have the right to detect if a person is less or weak. Society has made it look like that. Even some of the women has accepted this fact that they are weak and less important. There by making them weaker vessels and there by making them not to have the equal right with men.

      Because of this it gave rise to gender equality that is been declared by feminist.

      According to a popular literature book “””. Dear ijeawele or a feminist manifesto in fifteen suggestions “””

      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:

      “”””””” Teach her, too, to question the idea of women as a special species. I once heard an American politician, in his bid to show his support for women, speak of how women should be ‘revered’ and ‘championed’ – a sentiment that is all too common. Tell Chizalum that women actually don’t need to be championed and revered; they just need to be treated as equal human beings. There is a patronizing undertone to the idea of women needing to be ‘championed and revered’ because they are women. It makes me think of chivalry, and the premise of chivalry is female weakness. “”””””

      4. Fourth back up-
      According to a popular literature book “””. We should all be feminist “””
      FEMINIST Adichie Chimanmanda Ngozi she says in her book:
      ———-Men and women are different. We have different hormones and different sexual organs and different biological abilities—women can have babies, men cannot. Men have more testosterone and are, in general, physically stronger than women. A man and a woman are doing the same job, with the same qualifications, and the man is paid more because he is a man.So in a literal way, men rule the world. This made sense a thousand years ago. Because human beings lived then in a world in which physical strength was the most important attribute for survival; the physically stronger person was more likely to lead. And men in general are physically stronger. (There are of course many exceptions.) Today, we live in a vastly different world. The person more qualified to lead is not the physically stronger person. It is the more intelligent, the more knowledgeable, the more creative, more innovative. And there are no hormones for those attributes. A man is as likely as a woman to be intelligent, innovative, creative. We have evolved. But our ideas of gender have not evolved very much. ———–

      This idea of women being subjected too low make me feel bad. With some proves above , i guess I have answered some troubled thoughts in your mind now.

      For me my own point on this patriarchy system/society:

      “”””””” I was brought up by a mother who inculcated in me a deep respect for women. I believe that the inequality that women have faced through the centuries and today as well is a failure of all societies, and especially the mindset of male patriarchy. I cannot call myself anything other than a person who believes strongly in justice and gender-rights for women everywhere. It would be arrogant of me to call myself a feminist, though I believe strongly in the cause of the emancipation of women in all societies that repress women and pursue the same practices of male domination. “””””””””
      I know I have not gotten to the stage where I have my own establishment that fight for women right. But with time I will get to that point.

      As for me I have been given the orientation about Gender equality right from the onset
      Firstly-
      I was brought up by a mother who inculcated in me a deep respect for women. I believe that the inequality that women have faced through the centuries and today as well is a failure of all societies, and especially the mindset of male patriarchy. I cannot call myself anything other than a person who believes strongly in justice and gender-rights for women everywhere.

      Secondly-
      Though I believe strongly in the cause of the emancipation of women in all societies that repress women and pursue the same practices of male domination.

      5. Fifth back up-

      Patriarchy system in our world today using SAUDI ARABIA as a reference point.
      Patriarchy is for Men while Feminism is for Women.

      Feminism has a purpose and this purpose have made the movement agitating for certain rights in the society. For instance, feminist battles for the following:
      1. Labor rights for women;

      2.Gender equality;

      3. Decrease of violence against women;

      4. Equal employment opportunities;

      5. Equal rights of owning properties;

      6.Changes in the patriarchal society.

      In fact, feminism mainly fought against the stereotypical ideals of the patriarchal society. Patriarchy was (is) a system of power that divided societies the basis of “traditional” gender roles.

      The patriarchal model is still that “old mentality” that male should dominant.

      Patriarchy system exited in Arab countries For instance, in Saudi Arabia women cannot drive cars and cannot travel outside the country without the permission (or the presence, in most cases) of a “male guardian” – a male member of their family.

      Not too long middle of last year(JUNE) female started driving cars and they were issued license to drive.

      Here is the link from world popular news agency BBC

      https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.bbc.com/news/amp/world-middle-east-44367981

      After all this, the patriarchy has eaten deep in the society that even women feel male should dominate which even me Patrick personally feel is not the right choice.
      Equality should be in all area of life.

      The idea of patriarchy have made Men hold most of the
      1. wealth
      2. power
      3. political representation the world over.
      This is as a result of patriarchy system which run in our world today.
      This lead to agitating and the formation of feminist movements.

      EFFECT OF PATRIARCHY SYSTEM IN SOCIETY

      1.Triggers for Male Supremacy and Sexist Violence
      2. Competition:
      One of the most negative aspects of the patriarchal norms of masculinity is the tendency for men to constantly be in competition with each other.
      3. Rape Culture: this increases the rate of rape in the society. For men, it is seen as a necessity to seduce women (or other potential sexual partners) to the point that they’re encouraged to force other people into sex, with little to no regard for consent. When men are questioned about it, it often gets played of as “boys will be boys,” or “uncontrollable sexual urges,” or “nothing that serious.” For the victim, however, they are often treated horribly, with outsiders calling them “sluts,” saying “they deserved it” or they were “asking for it” for one reason or another, and inevitably removing responsibility from the man who committed the act in the first place. And it goes beyond direct physical encounters too of course, with how women are objectified in every form of media, or how children and teenagers are sexualized to the point that they’re kicked out of class for clothing that’s deemed “too sexy,” so on and so forth.
      4. Toxicity- making men hurt each other in all area of life

      5. Ignorance: This is one of the illusions the patriarchy tries to pull though: you’re a man, you’re better than women.

      6. Suicide:
      Also, men have higher rate of suicide based on being strong to hold problem.

      The patriarchy system has lead women to suffer as follows:

      1. They are paid less still for doing same job as men in many instances.

      2. Women feel pressured by society to look a certain way.

      3. Women are body-shamed and victim-blamed if we dress “provocatively” and are assaulted.

      Going further in to your long and explained comment. Am able to pick/select some thoughtful quotes/points from you towards the ending as I quote:

      1. Sadly, this is Our Present! We have agendas and laws right now that further degrade, devalue, disrespect and dissect the well being and overall human experience of women and babies!
      2. Definitions for Domestic/Sexual Violence have been changed to achieve this. The movement to kill newborns demonstrates this!
      3. If your agenda is about death, then you are not gonna have any love for women or children! More children means more chances for the right soul to be born who will challenge the mess that we call oppression. To correct this, laws and agendas are put in place for abusers to continue abusing. Women are made to be the bad guys and then internal that. They end up not loving themselves…giving themselves to every smile….devaluing their worth. Sex is just a past time now. If mommy has no value, how can baby?

      After much reading and going deep in to the comment, Patrick stories personally was able to analysis the comment in to two.
      1. Sexism
      2. Lawmakers/law rights
      3. Domestic violence/sexual abuse on women/girl child.

      1. SEXISM
      Sexism in general has to stop! No gender is higher than the other and the moment everyone starts to realize this, I believe the world would be better in some aspects.

      Here is the point as I quote from Nigeria feminist: CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE

      Her quote:

      In Dear Ijeawele: A Feminist Manifesto in Fifteen Suggestions, Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie writes that she is angrier about sexism than she is about racism. “I don’t think sexism is worse than racism, it’s impossible even to compare,” she clarifies. “It’s that I feel lonely in my fight against sexism, in a way that I don’t feel in my fight against racism. My friends, my family, they get racism, they get it. The people I’m close to who are not black get it. But I find that with sexism you are constantly having to explain, justify, convince, make a case for.”

      For me personally, Sexism also has the potential to shape how women think, feel and behave towards men in general. Research shows that women often experience a variety of negative emotions when they are the targets of sexism/Sexists.Sexism has lead to gender discrimination on the part of women.

      Sexism has made women to suffer
      1.anxiety
      2.depression
      3.hostility levels
      4. anger and fear toward men(Misandry)

      2. LAW MAKERS/ LAW RIGHT

      From my own view I personally disagree and partially agree with that statement as I quote:
      “””””” Sadly, this is Our Present! We have agendas and laws right now that further degrade, devalue, disrespect and dissect the well being and overall human experience of women and babies! “””””””

      I was able to bring out a particular point base on LAWMAKERS. I partially agree to your saying this male dominance over female is as a result of LAW MAKER

      After much analysis, I was able to back up that I totally disagree with that statement:
      “””””” Sadly, this is Our Present! We have agendas and laws right now that further degrade, devalue, disrespect and dissect the well being and overall human experience of women and babies! “””””””

      My back up here are:
      1. Home
      2. Individual families.

      1. HOME

      There is a qoute that normally says “” charity begin at home”””
      Check the word HOME , its made of families of different type, different ideology and different belief. The basic problem will be solved at the root first before getting to the top. The ideology that the law makers make the problem worst is absurd.
      I know that the law maker are the people at the highest echelons of society that are making decisions about healthcare, education, infrastructure, wealth distribution, opportunities, media content, taxes, accessibility to services, social programs, and funding.
      The patriarchy society have made Men held all these positions, power and law makers.

      Law maker are not the reason why female are been subjected as a low species. Solving the problem involves going back to root which is the home of this families.The society at large have no say in the upbringing of a child. The families make at least 60% contributions to the upbringing of the girl child.
      So I don’t really buy the idea that is the law makers who made all this male dominance over female in the society. The law maker are just 40% out of 100%.
      If the parents train them well on how men and women should have equal right I guess such men with have the idea that oppression of women is totally wrong.
      If the person in power was trained from home about equality with female in all round.
      When he gets in to power he will make sure all his subordinate in power agree to his own view about equality with women.
      The idea of hijacking and putting all men as head of this

      1.healthcare
      2.education
      3.ifrastructure,
      4.wealth distribution
      5. opportunities,
      6.media content,
      7.taxes,
      8.accessibility to services social programs, and funding.

      Those 7 lists will not occur if the root has a foundation that men and women should share equal right in all manner.

      2. INDIVIDUAL FAMILIES
      Individual families do make a difference that I will agree with. That is not the root of the issue. Change has to come from the top. Individual families make a big different in the upbringing also.Individual families is the root of the issues why male dominate in all areas. Me personally, changes start from the grassroot which is INDIVIDUAL FAMILIES. Don’t get angry over me, if my own knowledge about it does not agree with you. We are have our own ideal about a particular thing.

      2. DOMESTIC VIOLENCE /SEXUAL ABUSE ON WOMEN AND GIRL CHILD
      According to Wikipedia:
      Child sexual abuse, also called child molestation, is a form of child abuse in which an adult or older adolescent uses a child for sexual stimulation. “”””
      The effects of child sexual abuse can include depression, post-traumatic stress disorder,anxiety, complex post-traumatic stress disorder,propensity to further victimization in adulthood,and physical injury to the child, among other problems. Sexual abuse by a family member is a form of incest and can result in more serious and long-term psychological trauma, especially in the case of parental incest.

      Here is a link to the article on it for further understanding.
      https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Child_sexual_abuse

      Sexual abuse is one of the type of trauma because of the shame it instills in the victim. With childhood sexual abuse, victims are often too young to know how to express what is happening and seek out help. When not properly treated, this can result in a lifetime of PTSD, depression and anxiety.

      Some young girls were too innocent, they didn’t even know what really happened. Some of them experienced it at a very young age. Some of them were traumatized, they would soon forget.They may have felt something like this when they were in elementary, but they never did bother because they soon forgot (not because they were traumatized or something, but just because it happened a long time ago, and a conversation with someone triggered the memory, and now moat of them were thought about it.

      The childhood experience of such can cause one of the major problem TRAUMA.

      This child/sexual abuse can lead to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).

      There are various types of traumatic events that can lead to Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD).
      I guess I have opened your knowledge about trauma after getting more information about it.

      For more information check the link:

      https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/somatic-psychology/201303/trauma-childhood-sexual-abuse

      Despite that Women are the greatest pillars of society, yet they are being pulled down to dusts.
      Putting women down to the dust, shows that women don’t have values and this lead to gender role perception which the society still practise.
      The strongest women have the worst histories, not every woman has the opportunity to bounce back from such devastation(violence, rape and molestation )
      As an individual who support GENDER EQUALITY and agitate for human right.
      Here is the quote I formed early this year.

      PatrickStories Quotes

      “”””” I hate when society subject people to a particular assault or being grouped as “women and children” while there are lots of things that show that they have quality features to make as valuable as a strong individual, not being grouped as weak because they are female. Maybe physically, intellectually, etc. “””””””

      Backing up the above statement : Definitions for Domestic/Sexual Violence have been changed to achieve this. The movement to kill newborns demonstrates this!

      1. First back up

      I have to back it up with some contribution from our own popular FEMINIST Adichie Chimamanda Ngozi
      According to her she was sexually abuse at 17 when she was about publicizing her first book.
      Here is her confession:

      “”””” He was pleasant, avuncular, warm, and then he got up from his desk and walked around to where I was seated and stood behind me, and in a move that was as swift as it was shocking he slipped his hand under my button down shirt, under my bra and squeezed my breast. I was so taken aback that I did nothing for seconds. Then I pushed his hand away but gently, nicely, because I didn’t want to offend him.
      Later that day I broke into a rash on my chest, my neck, my face. As thought my body were recoiling. As though my body were saying what my lips had not said. I felt a deep loathing for that man and for what he did.
      I felt as if I didn’t matter, as if my body existed merely as a thing to be done with as he wanted, yet I told no one about it and I kept talking to him, being polite, hoping he would help with my book. “”””

      Here is a link to the site where I got her confession for more clarification.

      Here is the link:
      https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.okayafrica.com/chimamanda-ngozi-adichie-opens-up-about-sexual-assault-discusses-the-metoo-movement.amp

      Going further most of these woman experience :

      1. Psychology pain/abuse
      2. Emotional pain/ abuse

      From Wikipedia; Psychological abuse (also referred to as psychological violence, emotional abuse, or mental abuse) is a form of abuse, characterized by a person subjecting or exposing another person to behavior that may result in psychological trauma, including anxiety, chronic depression, or post-traumatic stress disorder. It is often associated with situations of power imbalance in abusive relationships, and can include bullying, gaslighting, and abuse in the workplace.[2][3] It also may be perpetrated by persons conducting torture, other violence, acute or prolonged human rights abuse, particularly without legal redress such as detention without trial, false accusations, false convictions and extreme defamation such as where perpetrated by state and media.

      The victim may experience severe psychological effects. This would involve the tactics of brainwashing, which can fall under psychological abuse as well, but emotional abuse consists of the manipulation of the victim’s emotions. The victim may feel their emotions are being affected by the abuser to such an extent that the victim may no longer recognize their own feelings regarding the issues the abuser is trying to control. The result is the victim’s self-concept and independence are systematically taken away.

      Here is a link to the article on it for further understanding.

      https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological_abuse

      So it take a strong woman(Renowned Nigerian author Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie) like her to bounce back from such devastation(violence, rape and molestation )

      2. Second back up

      Here is a popular newspaper agency called VANGUARD. That was able to talk about rape in Nigeria and the society at large.

      As I quote from one of the writings in the publish news about rape.

      “”””‘ In Nigeria, there are no accurate statistics for rape cases. We can excuse this, as even economic policies are drafted without correct statistics. This has not taken away the fact that rape is endemic in the country. We can recollect the infamous gang rape story that came out from a south east university sometimes ago. Do we know how many house maids are regularly raped by their employers? Or how many students are raped in universities? To be honest, rape over the years has become part of the workings in the Nigeria systems. Various governments have turned blind eyes to it and pretend it is nothing that calls for urgent attention. The executive and judiciary arms of governments have not done anything historic.

      Rape is a serious issue that needs urgent attention of every reasonable man and woman. Human beings are created to be reasonable and rational, but atrocities, such as rape has indicated otherwise. If being reasonable is a demand of living, rather than increase, rape figures should be nosediving. One therefore wonders if we are losing the war on sensibility. The rise in rapes cases clearly suggests that some men and women rather than use their brains prefer to be controlled by their emotions. And in doing this, they cause discomfort to other people. “”””””

      For further prove here is a link to the articles published on rape
      https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.vanguardngr.com/2017/09/lets-talk-rape/amp/

      Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      Thanks for giving me a chance to talk to you. Am please now I have someone who have my same idea and agree with me.

      These words you used are painted in truth, experience and reflective. I especially love how you started it and how you ended the comment, view and contributions. Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was amazed . Each word you used are true and reflective of my personal encounter with people(women).

      This produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated.

      You are welcome Miss/Mrs Poetikaly Anointed’s Corner

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  8. First , I enjoyed the poem . second , I loved the structural review of it . this is for the first time i am reading a poem with structural review which I think is a great way of exchanging ideas and interpretations . the poem talks about women and everything around them and I am extremely glad to read one such poetry after a really long time . loved it 🙂

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    1. Hi
      Thank you. I am happy to see your own view and contributions of the poem about women. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that.
      Am so please by that wonderful compliment in the beginning of your comment where you said as I quote:
      “”””” I am extremely glad to read one such poetry after a really long time . loved it 🙂 “”””””

      This is how I do my things, I make sure all my poems have meaning so the mind of viewers or readers will not be only imagination but it look more real and superior to their thinking.

      In reference to your views and contribution, I totally agree and support what you said in your comment about the poem.

      Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here in the poem where not answered.

      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Miss/Mrs

      #PATRICKSTORIES

      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  9. I enjoyed the poem and this is the first time I’m seeing a poem with a structural review. Love it.

    The poem itself speaks of women and how they adapt in spite of situations. It speaks to women in pregnancy and how they find ways to cope with the change happening to them and within them.

    Thanks for sharing this.

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your own view and contributions of the poem about women. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that.

      In reference to your views and contribution, I totally agree and support what you said about women during pregnancy.

      Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here in the poem where not answered.

      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr Sheep Jnr

      #PATRICKSTORIES

      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Thanks for the comment. I love your own contributions and view on the poem.

      Going through your comment. Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss Frangipani

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  10. Reblogged this on Creative Writing Course and commented:
    Make peace. Show love . Nice!
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    Hi Patrick

    Thanks for the follow *, as the reason I write is to share.
    * (Though my family and close friends say it would be far more entertaining with a video-camera # in “real life”, rather than in cyberspace!)

    # By the way, do they still make them in today’s ever-faster changing world..or is it all done with mobile phones?

    (get with the times now,”luddite”* c – it should be a smart phone)

    * or so I was often called by my “my techno-geek” friend, Bill (“the gonk”)

    “total non-techno” c (who doesn’t possess a mobile phone, after a rather eventful’ experience some years back, whilst trying to walk, talk and chew gum at the same time)

    Who says men can’t multi-task!

    Kind regards

    craig

    “You will do foolish things…but do them with enthusiasm.”
    – Colette

    PPS

    Best wishes from the First City to see the sun (in summer) …and we’re also the first to see the sunset and the stars (in winter-time)

    “I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars.”

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    1. Hi
      Thank you. I am happy to see your own view and contributions of the poem about women. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that.
      In reference to your views and contribution, I totally agree and support what you said about women during pregnancy.
      Thanks for the comment.
      Some questions put to you here in the poem where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.
      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:
      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?
      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)
      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)
      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?
      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!
      You are welcome Mr Danny
      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  11. Oh my god Patrick. You have so different vision. In the way you expressed your views is so unique. I loved your creativity. I hope to see many more such awesome piece of work from you. Keep it up. I learn a lot from you.

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your own view and contributions of the poem about women. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that.

      In reference to your views and contribution, I totally agree and support what you said about women during pregnancy.

      Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here in the poem where not answered.

      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr/Mrs

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mrs Rekha Sahay

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss/Ms

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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      1. 1) yes they have access to antenatal care in hospitals. 2) And 3) I wouldn’t know as you see I’m only 15 so yeah I’m sorry. 4) 😐😐 Don’t have an answer for this but I guess this poem do relate to women during pregnancy.

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        1. Wow, you are such a young pretty lady.
          So sorry for that. OK.

          I just went through your reply based on the questions I asked you and the reply words you used are amazing.

          You are such a phenomenal person with such incredible reply.

          Am highly motivated this morning and such comment on my blog.

          I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing day.

          Thanks again Miss Fate

          #PATRICKSTORIES
          Peace ✌and Love ❤

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    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your own view and contributions of the poem about women. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that.

      In reference to your views and contribution, I totally agree and support what you said about women during pregnancy.

      Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here in the poem where not answered.

      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr watt

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Hi

      Thank you. I am happy to see your own view and contributions of the poem about women. It gives me a thoughtful thinking and am  happy for that.

      In reference to your views and contribution, I totally agree and support what you said about women during pregnancy.

      Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here in the poem where not answered.

      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr/Mrs/Miss Nargiskalani

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

  12. Beautiful poem. I love the imagery too. Awesome. I want to briefly comment on ‘pregnancy. I am the mother of four, now adult boys. I find that pregnancy is the best part of a woman’s life. The joyous feeling that impregnates you whilst you are carrying a baby is incomparable. It is a unique sentiment of fulfilment. We should encourage women to carry their pregnancy to term. I am against abortion. Life is a gift of God.

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    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr/Mrs/Miss

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 2 people

  13. I had taken gender studies as a subject and it was about all genders and their performativity, in simple words how one plays the role that gender assigns. I perceived this poem on this basis and believe that it is a fine piece of text that is based on women and their struggles.

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    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr/Mrs/Miss

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

  14. Waw… This is lovely and beautiful creation. It’s deep and meaningful and the way you gave explanation of the poem about what the Author says is commendable. I have rarely seen anyone giving proper explanation of the poem and that too mentioning line by line; this need big round of applause.
    A “Gem” like creation indeed… Liked it.. 🙂

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    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr Ashish Kumar

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

  15. The poem gives a very different perspective & increased respect for all the pregnant women. Deeply appreciate my mom for bringing me into this world & raising me to make me into what I am today, carrying all the burdens on her shoulders without complaints. To all the women out there (including myself), we are stronger than we think! 💪

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    1. Fantastic and  amazing comment. Just short and straight forward.

      Am so glad you commented on this topic.

      Love what you said towards the ending —

      “”” To all the women out there (including myself), we are stronger than we think! “”””””

      I keep saying this any where I go. For me my own point on this matter:

      PatrickStories Quotes

      “””””” I was brought up by a mother who inculcated in me a deep respect for women. I believe that the inequality that women have faced through the centuries and today as well is a failure of all societies, and especially the mindset of male patriarchy. I cannot call myself anything other than a person who believes strongly in justice and gender-rights for women everywhere. It would be arrogant of me to call myself a feminist, though I believe strongly in the cause of the emancipation of women in all societies that repress women and pursue the same practices of male domination. “”””

      Thanks for giving me this well fed inspiration.

      I hope you have a wonderful and relaxing Thursday

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

  16. Oh am touch by this comment. this blew me away. Thank you for taking the time to share these write up through these words.

    These words are painted in truth, experience and perspective. I especially love how you started it and how you ended the write up. Beautifully written and as I read through again on each line I was amazed . Each word you used are true and reflective of my personal encounter with people .

    This produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated.

    You are welcome

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❤

    Liked by 1 person

  17. Exceptionally brilliant one Patrick !
    I cannot fathom how great and important topic this is.

    Thank you for sharing !

    I Believe that the only living being in the world who knows us more than anyone for 9 months is none other than our mother .

    She carries us in her womb for months , later she carries the burden of our home and problems till her last breathe.

    Kudos to every female being out there 🙌😇❤️
    Ain’t less than any ‘ living Angel ‘

    Our Society may have set a patriarchichal system but by spreading such awareness we can break every kinda stereotypes of Male dominance and be an actual ‘Feminist’ .

    Some women are privileged for getting appropriate care at their fullest during pregnancy and later,
    but on the contrary there are several one too who suffer tortures in every state of mind being pregnant in remote areas of the World which is saddening to the most .

    Bringing a child into the world is the most priceless thing to be happened❤️
    God gift none can refuse
    A life is born which is truly possible when a woman and every other caretaker family nurtures & nourishes the woman (pre born baby) 🙂

    May all female beings throughout the World get blessed to produce a child with Grace and no harm 🙏

    THANK YOU ! 🙌

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    1. Patrick Stories is really sorry for the late reply/response to the comment. My schedule was tight this period.

      Please try and understand my plights. Thanks for understanding me.

      Am so please by that wonderful compliment in the beginning of your comment where you said as I quote:

      “”””” Exceptionally brilliant one Patrick !
      I cannot fathom how great and important topic this is. Thank you for sharing ! “””””””

      Thanks for taking time to answer some of the questions put after you.

      As I read trough you inspired comment, some of them were left out as follows:

      4. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Going further in to you inspirational comment , I was touched by this words/comments :

      1.A life is born which is truly possible when a woman and every other caretaker family nurtures & nourishes the woman (pre born baby) 🙂

      2. May all female beings throughout the World get blessed to produce a child with Grace and no harm 🙏

      This comment/words produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated for that.

      You are welcome  Mr Abhi Jeet

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Like

    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. What are you contribution,opinion and views about the poem?

      2. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      3. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Miss

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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  18. There was a very tender appreciation for motherhood and womanhood expressed in this poem, and a use of complex metaphors that illustrated how much women truly contribute to society through creating life.

    I’ve never had a child, but as a woman I can sympathize with the struggles many women face during pregnancy and there is a lot of burden placed on women to be mothers and nurturers of the household.

    And to answer question 2: In my society, I don’t think there is much provided for mothers with antenatal care – and a lot of mothers in my country tend to be of the poorer class.

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    1. Patrick Stories is really sorry for the late reply/response to the comment. My schedule was tight this period.

      Please try and understand my plights.

      Am so please by that wonderful compliment in the beginning of your comment where you said as I quote:

      “”””””” There was a very tender appreciation for motherhood and womanhood expressed in this poem, and a use of complex metaphors that illustrated how much women truly contribute to society through creating life. “”””””

      Thanks for taking time to answer some of the questions put after you.

      Am touched by this words you said now:

      “”””” I’ve never had a child, but as a woman I can sympathize with the struggles many women face during pregnancy and there is a lot of burden placed on women to be mothers and nurturers of the household. “””””

      This comment/words produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated for that.

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss/Ms Scriberly

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

  19. It was a very interesting and complex poem. At first, I thought they were talking about abortion but realized they were not. Admittedly, I am not much of a poetry reader!
    To answer some of your questions,

    2.even in the USA, there are many women who do not get the correct prenatal care because of lack of money or insurance. There are many poor areas with a lack of resources and education.
    3.. During 9 months of pregnancy, you feel everything. I loved every kick, punch, and hiccup. The attachment and undying love begins at conception. I loved being pregnant so much, I did it 5 times and would have done it more, if I could. I felt great. You think about the miracle of it all when as they grow that this can even happen. A child grows in your stomach like that – it is when you really believe in God because of the miracle that is occurring. How amazing the female body is that it can do all of this to produce another human being.

    4. Bringing a child into the world means you no longer come first.

    5. It has to change you as you become less selfish. Your life is no longer about you.

    Sandy

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    1. Patrick Stories is really sorry for the late reply/response to the comment. My schedule was tight this period.

      Please try and understand my plights. Thanks for understanding me.

      Am so please by that wonderful compliment in the beginning of your comment where you said as I quote:

      “””” It was a very interesting and complex poem. At first, I thought they were talking about abortion but realized they were not. Admittedly, I am not much of a poetry reader! “”””””

      Thanks for taking time to answer some of the questions put after you.

      This is how I do my things, I make sure all my poems have meaning so the mind of viewers or readers will not be only imagination but it look more real and superior to their thinking.

      Thanks for giving me a chance to talk to you. Am please now I have someone who have my same idea and agree with me.

      These words you used are painted in truth, experience and reflective. I especially love how you started it and how you ended the comment, view and contributions. Beautifully written and as I  read through again on each line I  was amazed . Each word you used are  true and reflective of my personal encounter with people(women).

      This produced a smile on my tired face after a long day. You’re appreciated.

      You are welcome  Mrs Sandy

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for the comment.

      Some questions put to you here where not answered.
      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here are the questions
      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a bearer of a child in your womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel during that period?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3. Bringing a child to this world — Did it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      4. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mrs/Miss Ghuang

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

  20. What a brilliantly scripted poem, I personally haven’t birthed yet but I think childbearing and pregnancy changes the perceptions of every mother to be stronger and more protective of her oncoming offspring.. Its just the natural motherly nature.
    Also I think during the 9months period, you feel alot of emotions roller coasters, its not easy but its all Joy at the end of the journey.
    Also, antenatal care, hmmm… This concern only exists in africa to be honest, the hospitals in africa needs to do better and provide better facilities to help our women during this period.
    In conclusion, I can relate to this poem and thank you for celebrating motherhood and womanhood in written words💙

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    1. Thanks for taking your precious the to comment on my post/poem.

      I so much enjoyed this statement in your comment:

      “””””” What a brilliantly scripted poem “””””””

      This is how I do my things, I make sure all my poems have meaning so the mind of viewers or readers will not be only imagination but it look more real and superior to their thinking.

      Am happy you answered some questions put after you. That is very good of you.

      I so much appreciate that.

      Thanks for giving me a chance to talk to you. Am please now I have someone who have my same idea and agree with me.

      Thanks for this last words –

      “”””” I can relate to this poem and thank you for celebrating motherhood and womanhood in written words💙 “””””

      It touched me and made smile.

      One more time, thanks🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

      You are welcome

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

      Liked by 1 person

    1. Thanks for letting me know about the award. I appreciate that very much.

      Some questions put to you here in the poem where not answered.

      I will like you to share your opinion on it.

      Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

      1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

      2. Being a father of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

      3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

      5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

      Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

      You are welcome Mr Kamran

      #PATRICKSTORIES
      Peace ✌and Love ❤

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      1. 1) yes they do but it is very limited. They should put more money and resources into this aspect.
        2) I have not had this so I could not give you an answer which would do it justice.
        3) it definitely will. You see life differently – all you care about is providing for your child and protecting them and you will do anything in life to achieve that.
        4) Yes it can relate as I know many people who were pregnant and so I can understand this very much.
        Keep up the amazing work you do 🤗🤗

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  21. Thanks for taking your precious the to comment on my post/poem.

    I so much enjoyed this statement in your comment.

    Am happy you answered some questions put after you. That is very good of you.

    I so much appreciate that.

    Thanks for giving me a chance to talk to you. Am please now I have someone who have my same idea and agree with me.

    It touched me and made smile.

    One more time, thanks🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

    You are welcome Mr Kamran

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❤

    Liked by 1 person

  22. Thanks for the comment.

    Some questions put to you here where not answered.
    I will like you to share your opinion on it.

    Here is a question for my fellow bloggers and readers:

    1. In the society you find yourself, do pregnant women have access to these antenatal care in hospitals?

    2. Being a mother of a child that was in the womb for 9 months. What are the things you feel as a father?( I need an inspirational answers)

    3.. Bringing a child to this world(both men and women) — will it change your kind of person? or perceptions about Life? ( I need an inspirational answers)

    5. Can the poem relate with your perception of women during pregnancy?

    Please let me know all your reactions, views and insights in the comment box below!

    You are welcome Mrs Success

    #PATRICKSTORIES
    Peace ✌and Love ❤

    Liked by 1 person

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